What Values and Principles Do You Believe Are Most Important in Regards to Sexual Behavior?

I believe sex is not a subject to be taken lightly. Sex can not only create lives but it can also take lives. I have several principles and values that I completely believe in, in regards to sexual behavior. I especially value loyalty, honesty, intimacy, passion, and pleasure. I believe sex should be an emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical type of experience. All of these aspects should be involved during the event.

Honesty and loyalty are two things that have to be present in any sexual encounter that I am a part of. I have to be able to trust my partner to be loyal, because sex is not a game. There are so many diseases out there that can cause me to become ill or even kill me. I also have to know that my sexual partner is only my sexual partner and not having sex with several people. Monogamy is very important. I want them to understand and respect the fact that I am a loyal person, myself, and will not have multiple partners. I do not think that it is fair to lie to your partner about your sexual history, so it is important for both my partner and I to be checked to make sure we are both safe.

I really value intimacy in a sexual relationship. I believe there should be a high level of comfort in such a relationship. There should be great communication between my partner and I. I need a lot of security and respect from my partner. I have to be able to just be myself around them, and not feel like I have to act a certain way just to impress them. I have to feel relaxed, and close to my partner. If I am not comfortable with the person that I am having sex with, then I feel it is just a waste of my time. We also have to be able to communicate outside of the bedroom in order for me to feel completely comfortable.

Passion is immensely important to me. I value having a partner that is passionate in everything that they do, not just during sec. I think that having sex without passion is utterly unexciting. Passionate sex involves the exchange of strong feelings and impulses. I think that an impulsive love who is willing to experiment and be open-minded is the best type of lover. A good lover should also be confident in what they are doing. A lot of people may not realize this, but when they are not confident at what they are doing during sex, it really shows.

I believe that sex should be pleasurable for both partners. Both partners should be willing to try something that the other partner might enjoy. Like I stated before, experimentation and keeping an open mind is essential. No one should should be selfish when it comes to sex. I think that it can be pleasurable sometimes just to know that you can give your partner pleasure, to know that you are the one creating these feelings for them. Sex that is forced or done simply because one partner feels obliged to is terrible. Both partners need to be content.

My point is, sex that is solely physical can cause too many emotional issues. "Bed buddy" relationships can be really messy because one person may begin to have stronger feelings for the other partner, whom in return may only feel lust. (I know from experience just how heartbreaking this can be to either partner.) It should not be the only thing that the relationship is based on, unless of course that is understood between both partners. Having sex with just anyone is simply an attempt to satisfy a physically, lustful desire. Sex with someone that you actually have mutual feelings for can fulfill your body, mind, and soul. In other words, it can relax your body, free your mind and simply make you feel amazing.