What We Can Learn from Heath Ledger's Death

Don Simkovich
Heath Ledger was an actor whose work I respected. I thought his role in the movie The Patriot was as accomplished as a man like Robert Duvall or Deniro. Regardless of the circumstances surrounding Heath Ledger's death, here are lessons we can learn from this tragedy that hit an actor whose work I respected:

Pop Stars are Fleeting

Our pop culture emphasizing sexuality and beauty fails to recognize the temporary nature of our existence. It's proven that our life span is limited. And, yet, it's a troubling fact to face.

Man is Not the Measure of All Things

In college, I enjoyed the debates between humanists - many of whom were professors I respected - and Christians. We have developed amazing technology to communicate rapidly around the globe, our entertainment choices are wide, and we have access to so many advances in medicine. Yet, we cannot control or determine the exact length of our lives. We are limited. While this can strike some as fatalistic, it also provides a dose of reality and we actually see triumph in death through the words of the Apostle Paul in the New Testament book of 1 Thessalonians chapter 4.

Success is Personal

I attend an acting workshop one to two times per week where there are a number of talented artists working out with scenes and scripts. Their work rivals so many of the performances on television or films. Yet, nearly all of them will go unrecognized except by their closest peers. It's tempting to look at an actor like Heath Ledger and feel a twinge of envy - or downright jealousy when looking at other performers. Yet, I've learned to define my own personal success through my marriage, family and the thrill of overcoming each day's challenges.

In short, success and wealth can be defined through the number of high quality, supportive caring relationships we build and enjoy.

Death is Inescapable

This is a fact. And yet we don't know how to go about dying. We rarely discuss it and are shocked when it occurs. When my mother was dying of bone cancer in 1999, the priest in my parents' Orthodox church also worked with a local hospice organization. And he told me so few people really know how to die well: from preparing our estates, to reaffirming relationships with others. Even in the evangelical church I now attend, we almost treat death - or someone's untimely death - with the attitude of "whoops!"

What Simmers Beneath the Surface?

As shocking as it was hearing about Heath Ledger's death, a man I knew who was my age, committed suicide last year. He and his family attended our church until they moved away to Dallas. He returned to the Pasadena area to visit family and took his own life while on a trip back. His family was strikingly handsome, his kids got great grades (unlike a few of mine, ugh) and they had a good relationship. And, yet, there was a form of mental illness he had throughout his life almost no one knew about.

Grasp Joy

Despite the ever present knowledge of death facing us, we're created for joy! I think through so many words in biblical books like Isaiah, the Psalms or in the New Testament that reflect God's absolute love for His creation. It's this security that gives me the chance to live joyfully even though I know my physical days will eventually end.

Leave a Good Legacy

How will you be remembered? Memorial services should inspire us to leave behind a positive mark on those around us.

Profound Thoughts are Good Thoughts

In the rush and hurry of our every day lives, it's helpful and even necessary to reflect on the profound - to give proper perspective to how we live. Don't brush off a death like that of Heath Ledger.

Instead, let it impact you.

Published by Don Simkovich

Works with small business owners to keep them healthy and run healthy businesses. Don interviews small business owners, writes about those who shape the culture around Los Angeles, and journals his hikes and...  View profile

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  • Linda M. McCloud2/11/2008

    Such a sad event. I feel for his family. They not only lost someone they love, they have to put up with all of this media pressure. I know it is a part of fame. But I always think it is sad when families have to suffer.

  • Tyler Mills2/2/2008

    Hopefully his daughter will be told wonderful stories about her Dad so she can get a good idea of how much her father loved her and will be around in the hearts of family members and loved ones for generations.

  • Jody1/27/2008

    This is a really wonderful piece! I couldn't agree more with each and every point that you made. It's very sad... especially for his daughter. It really proves that just because someone is rich and famous doesn't necessarily mean that they are happy and unstressed though.

  • Andrea Edwards1/27/2008

    Thank you for writing this. I just lost my brother over a year ago, and Heath Ledger's death hit close to home. I do truly believe that his death is accidental.

  • Kim Linton1/25/2008

    Very insightful and full of wisdom. Excellent!

  • Luke1/25/2008

    Your story was linked to here:

    http://nymag.com/daily/entertainment/2008/01/heath_ledger_americas_listmake.html

  • Rebecca Livermore1/24/2008

    I really enjoyed this. You are so right on all of the points you made!

  • Hartley Engel1/24/2008

    Great piece. Very poignant. Thanks for sharing your thoughts -- I couldn't agree with them more.

  • Cheryl Loux1/24/2008

    Well said, Don. Death is a tough subject and I think people as a habit just brush it off because they don't want to deal with it. We do this by subconsciously not preparing for it by, as you mentioned, not having our affairs in order, mending relationships, etc.... There are some people, like my mother, who will get mad and refuse to discuss death. She won't go to a funeral of a friend etc... Anyways, I really like the last line "...let it [death] impact you". Insightful.

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