Whatever Happened to the Sanctity of Marriage?

I have to admit I am a bit disgusted. Now I have been married for 11 years and I have my friends here and there, many of whom are married themselves, but sleeping with them is totally out of the question. First off a man will not stop at anything to avenge the grievance, it even says so in the Bible. The second issue I have with infidelity of that nature is that people never look at you the same and your character is truly brought into question. You are like the scum of the earth.

But perhaps I am just old school and respect an institution that married men do not respect anymore. Mark Sanford, Tiger Woods, Jessie James, these are just a few of the men that do not seem to respect the institution at all whatsoever. Mark Sanford did try to reconcile with his wife, but my goodness the man just disappeared into the night with his Argentinean mistress. Dude was seriously feeling her, as though he had either never met his wife before or had fallen out of love with her like five years ago. It was embarrassing to hear him talk about his love for his mistress, and it was a sad day to be an American.

What is that makes a man sleep with nearly 20 women he is not married to over a short period of time? Tiger Woods was not married to his wife for that long. People say that women are attracted to these men because of the money but I beg to differ. Well perhaps for Tiger that was the case because his game is probably on the level of a sixth grader. He does not appear to be a smooth operator at all, when you consider the sophomoric way in which his wife found out about his mistress.

Either you are in love with a woman or you are not. Clearly affairs can and do happen, but you make amends and if you are lucky your wife will forgive you and you can move past them. However the magnitude of these affairs, and the large numbers of people that these men are involved with make me think that these men are not in love with their wives at all. I also have to question if they ever were. I saw a documentary on a basketball player that said that he had been out there for 20 years doing his thing outside of his marriage, but that he could not forgive his wife if she were to have an affair.

Player, chances are your old lady has been with at least half as many men as you have women. At least a few guys here and there. They don't get caught like we do. About the only time you are going to find out is if she is in love with the other dude and by then it is too late for you to do anything about it. You might get beat down and disrespected and she will walk off with that other dude as though you do not even exist. Women can be very cold in that respect, but typically it is warranted.

It is interesting how you hear about all of these men getting caught but you never hear about women doing anything. Do not think for a second that is because women do not step out on their man. A woman will say all types of things about her man, if you are willing to listen, and then boost you up and make you feel like you are the best thing to ever happen to her. Then you will catch her with the man and the two of them have the type of chemistry that she would have with her closest girlfriend. It is cold and unfair.

But I digress because the bottom line is that people do not have any respect for marriage anymore. Men are out doing their thing, women are doing theirs, and then people are surprised when their partner falls out of love or gives them the gift that keeps on giving or the gift that will kill them. Nice people fall in love with people that are not very nice at all and then they end up being a horrible person themselves. Passive aggressive behavior is an ugly thing to experience indeed. Relationships will test your character in ways that you have never imagined. I like my warm bed at night, my companionship, and the fact that I can be free and not worry about my sexual health. I like my friends but I could never date any them. They can't be trusted ...