What's Jennifer Schefft Been Up To?

Jennifer Schefft has written: Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling. For those of you like me and did not watch the shows The Bachelor and The Bachelorette you may not now Jennifer (Jen) Schefft. But Jen was actually on both of those shows. She was able to be proposed to several times. Even with those great guys asking for her hand she is still single today and does not regret it. Because like she said, those guys are great but not great for her. I really appreciate how Jen acknowledges that marriage is not only about looks and money. I applaud her for looking past the spot lights of Hollywood and seeing the real world outside of stardom.

In my following paragraph and sentences you will see (#) at the end of the sentences. This is so you, the reader have those reference pages ready to go if you choose to enjoy this book as well.

She confirms that amazing number of single women (6). It is true that some people stay in a relationship for the positive factors of a relationship, even when the negative factors out weight the positive (33). It is so true, that married people need to know that just because they are married today does not mean that one day they will not be alone again (34). I am glad that she acknowledges that some events one would rather not attend single. Some events are meant to go to as a couple (ie weddings) (35).

I appreciate that she considers that is it important to take parental opinions into consideration (109). I am glad that she points out that it is not all about money (137). It reminds me of the Bible verse: Mark 8:36 "For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?"

She does mention on-line dating and to consider when someone is responding on-line to remember that they have time to think of an answer and someone may be helping them with their answer versus when face to face in conversation (145). She recommends not dragging out e-mail relationships without ever meeting (150).

Obviously she understands that when breaking up no one wants hurt feelings and so she gives different tips on breaking it off easier (154). With this in mind she covers why people let bad relationships continue (173). The book contains different ways to diagnose relationships (184). She includes red flags in a relationship (237). She includes some key points for breaking off a relationship (242). In addition she provides ways to break up and ways not to make the break (246-252). Jen even provides recovering helps (256-258).

The book contains a list of things that have turned women off from men (157-158).

I like how she provides tips for living the single life (38-39). She has a list in the book of fun things only singles can enjoy (55-57). One of my favorite ideas: You still have the hope of meeting someone special.

Obviously when considering dating one has to determine what they are looking for in a possible mate. It is important to make a list of what you are looking for so that way you always have your list . When the time comes to consider marriage your head can help your heart make the decision regarding the relationship (127). If one is to marry later in life they may have to consider if they are agreeable to marrying someone who already has children (98). When waiting longer to marry the risk of infertility may increase (104).

She understands the pressure singles receive to get married (65). With this is mind she gives answers to the on going questions singles receive-the classic "Why are you still single?" (70). She points out how much more relaxing a relationship is when you know you are not afraid of being single in the event the relationship does not work (243).

One of my favorite thoughts in the book is that just because you do not make friends with every girl you meet, what makes you think every guy you meet is going to be your friend (51). Another one of my favorite thoughts is that it is still important to have girlfriend time and time alone (198). In addition I appreciate that she mentions to talk to your guy the way you would a friend (227). How funny it is that we can be arguing one moment with a loved one and then the phone rings and we decide to change our attitude for a friend.

From time to time Jen's writing is blurred in with other peoples testimonies, so that tends to be distracting. Some of the language in this book is not family friendly. In addition there is the implication that living together before marriage is acceptable.

What is the most amazing to me is that she was in a relationship when she wrote this book. So I feel like she wrote this book with credibility.

This book Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling is Copyright 2007. HarperCollins Publishers, 10 East 53 Street, New York, NY 10022.