What's Your Weight? - the New Romantic Line!

A recent conversation had me wondering, just what is it with men, looking for girl friends, who demand to know what a woman's weight is in the first three lines of conversation. Don't they know how it makes them look? How unappealing they instantly appear to be?

Now, keep in mind, I'm married. I make sure people I talk to understand I'm married, so I wasn't trying to lead this guy on. But he's not the first man to demand to know my weight, and then insult me when I wouldn't give an answer. I was brought up that it was crass to ask a woman's weight as that number could change given health, time of the month and circumstances, but her heart and personality weren't likely to change as deeply.

So just what is it about men asking 'what's your weight' and expecting a stranger to A- give an answer and B- find it romantic?

Do they really think a woman wants to become their girl friend based on the number the scales show?

Oh, I have a good idea. For every man who asks a woman what her weight is, the woman should ask, 'what's your bank balance'! But that would be none of our business, would it? As it has no bearing, or should have none, on falling in love with a person.

But what would I know?

I only write romance for a living. I've only been happily married for eight years to a very romantic man who has never once asked 'darling, step on the scales for me'. I'm not a conventional beauty, but I've had enough admiring looks, hits on me, and compliments to my husband, in my time to tell me that I don't break mirrors.

I can see it now.

He drew her into his strong embrace, holding her against his tightly rippled form before he whispered the words she'd longed to hear. "My love, what do you weigh?"

Do you think it would sell?

Oh course not, women don't find that romantic. No more than most men want to be dated for their bank balance. It's shallow. And unless the person you're seeking to date is a shallow human being, then this isn't the way to go about finding a date.

I can remember, very clearly, one dear friend of mine responding to a comment about being fat by a man in a bar. Her response was this.

"My weight can change. I can diet, or do something to change how I look. Your IQ will remain the same."

Yes, you have a choice to date someone who is only a certain weight, build or even bank balance figure, but the way you approach someone will say a lot about you. I'm not saying that picking someone based on your personal preferences is wrong. I'm saying how you go about it is the problem. Especially if you continue to bug someone about it after they've told you - "I'm married". What do you think they're going to do? Cheat? Divorce to be with someone who wooed them with such a romantic line?

If so there's a message for you at the door, your reality check is waiting.

If you want to appear to be an inconsiderate, shallow minded, superficial human being, sure, continue to approach women with lines like 'What's your weight'. I'm sure you'll end up with exactly the type of relationship you deserve.