When Your Baby Came, Did Your Sex Life Leave?

Nothing can put a damper on a hot sex life faster than the addition of children. Suddenly your love nest for two becomes a nest filled with crying and dirty diapers. No longer is your attention lavished on one another in the same way because now you have someone in the family who needs constant attention. Let's face it. It's hard to feel sexual when you are worrying about how long you have until the baby wakes up. Quickies are fun, but they are more fun when they are not done out of necessity.

It is very important to not lose sight of your relationship with your spouse with the arrival of a new baby. Having a child is a beautiful experience to be shared, and it can be easy to get so caught up in the role of being a parent that you forget you are also a spouse.

Jennifer and Brad were ecstatic to bring their baby into their home. As a newly married couple, they had taken measures to plan carefully to ensure that their child would have a good start in life. They had decorated a beautiful nursery. Jennifer quit her job so that she would be able to stay home with the baby for the first year or two. The one thing that the couple did not plan on, however, was a diminished sex life.

If you are finding that your new role as a parent is putting a damper on your sexual relationship with your spouse, here are some tips to help you:

-Take the time to spend quality time alone with your spouse. This will take some mindful effort now that you are a parent. It may mean getting a babysitter. It may mean making the most of moments when the baby is sleeping.

-Don't forget your sexuality. New parents can be so fatigued that they forget the sexual side of themselves. Take the time to pamper yourselves. Give each other a massage. Take a bubble bath. Wear something sexy. Put on some romantic music.

-Don't forget to be playful and flirt with one another. The great thing about this is that you can do this anytime. Tuck sexy notes into your spouses drawer. Leave each other some sexy text messages or voice mails. This is a wonderful way to keep the sexual energy flowing between the two of you. Not only will you feel sexy, you will anticipate your next intimate encounter.

Being a happy couple will always make you better parents. You will be less stressed, and feel more overall satisfaction in your lives together. A little mindful effort is all that it will take.