When a (Black) Man Loves a (White) Woman
A Black-Woman's Point of View
My brother is involved with a young caucasian girl and she is the sweetest, kindest person I have ever met. They are truly in love and I am proud of that. I am also proud of the fact that my brother chose her because he really liked her. Not every black man does that. They say they choose white women because we are too loud and have too much attitude. They call us materialistic and judgmental. They complain about our fake nails and fake hair and heavier frames. They say we never want to please them in bed and hate giving oral sex. In other words, they feel like we aren't worth the effort and deem us less then. So, not only do we have to look at their image when we're told what's beautiful but we have to listen to all these so-called qualities that make us even less attractive. It is one thing to fall in love or be with someone because of how they make you feel. We already feel the full effect of the differences when we see a black man with a white woman. Her long hair and pale skin. Her small frame and light, airy, go-with-the-flow attitude. We already know deep down that the reason you're with her is because you find her beauty more attractive. If it was just kept at that, then it would be our issue to deal with. We don't need the nail hammered deeper in by being called offensive things that aren't true of 80% of us.
We do it too. We complain and categorize black men by the stupid things one or two have done to us. We say they are all no good. They all lie and are out for only one thing. We don't give the good ones a chance because we're too busy chasing after the not-so-good ones. The only thing is, we complain but we stick with them. We are loyal and sometimes the thought of being with another race boggles our mind because we can't picture it. It's nothing against other races, it just that we have been taught to support and love our black men. When we date outside our race, it's more because we have found true love, not because we're sick of black men.
I was talking to associate one day and he was telling me how he met someone recently. I asked a little about her and he went on to tell me she was white and how he was really feeling her. I was reminded of this piece I was working on, so I asked him what the draw was. He made the mistake of opening his mouth. He went on the "black women" tirade and I snapped. I told him that not every black woman was the same. I told him I was sick of hearing about our attitudes because we have confidence and won't put up with any crap thrown our way. We have goals and ambitions and excuse us for expecting our men to be the same. I explained to him that a black woman is a man's test of character and if he isn't strong enough to walk with us, he's not strong enough. We refuse to take a subservient role and play these asinine games of trying to make whiny, bratty boys into men. I reminded him that for every black man that fears and rejects us, there are two who love and cherish us. I told him that next time, he just say love is blind and shut up.
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33 Comments
Post a CommentI'm a white model looking blond girl. I'm easygoing and intelligent. I like black men's mentality, their frame...BUT they're afraid of making the acquaintance of me!!!Why?Just follow me with eyes...It's not the same about white boys.
And one more thing to Princess: Black women have their unique beauty, not all, but the same for the white. Look after yourselves and if you want people to like and respect you, first you should like and respect yourselves!!!! Hope u got the idea)Sorry, if my English is not excellent...
Sisters only want brothers with big bank anything less is unexceptable to them! Where as white ladies know how to look past the pocket and see a guys potential a will react to his attractiveness. A sister aint got time to see whats gone happen down the road they need results, and proof of a guys worth immediately if not sooner. lastly more white women do more freakier stuff than black women.
This is a truly brutal article. You just continued to go on a rant that is the exact counterpart to those you "hear from black men". You need to let go of things and then see how much more will come your way.
I was married to a black man for 20 years. I married him because of who he was, his character and his love and support. He took a deep look inside of me and fell in love with me! Not the color of my skin! We are all children of GOD made in his likeness, except that we are his children and we are here to love and take care of one another no matter what race we are!
Love how you wrote "all black women are not the same" and then went on categorize all the white girls as people who will put up with anything, carefree, and like we just run around performing oral sex as a hobby.. blah blah blah!!
My husband of 7 years is black, we have a mixed child. I don't "put up" with anything, and he doesnt try any stupid shit. He works,he pays the bills, he's educated, we do normal stuff any family would do.. shop, take our kid to chuck e cheese, watch movies, etc. He's been wonderful since the day we met and even sat by my side through having cancer. Literally, by my side. Right next to me at every chemo, even after my "long flowing white girl hair" fell out on my pillow and the steroids swelled up my "small white frame". Seriously, maybe you can't find a black man because you're angry, bitter, and too worried about what the next person is doing. I couldnt care less who someone else is with be they
maybe black men do say these things about black woman and maybe you do think they find white girls more attractive. But at the end of the day it comes down to individuals and falling in love with someone regardless of the colour of their skin. Not all white girls have small frames (definitely not haha) and airy go with the flow attitudes. Each person is different from the next and thats what makes the world beautiful. I say people should stop judging others on skin colours because at the end of the day colour is only skin deep.
Oh and @ Nikki. I have a wonderful black man, he aint with me because I'm some stupid white girl that puts up with bogish BS, he's with me because he finds me attractive, intelligent and supportive. He makes more money than 80% of the general population white or black, pays his bills and completely legit. Are there blackmen running game on white women out there, definitely. But there are people running game all over the place, race aside. So say all the hateful crap you want, what it boils down to is I have a fantastic man, and he's black. He chooses to be with me because I'm good to him and has yet to need to be checked. Women shouldnt be naive but they also bring to much suspicion to relationships and end them being worried they gettin played. Basically shortin themselves out of what they can have, what I have.
And when you snapped off and told him for every one blackman that rejected you for whatever reason there were two who adored you, you basically proved his point for him. And I'm sure in his head he was like and that's why I didn't ask you out.
"I told him that next time, he just say love is blind and shut up."
I say...if you don't want the truth, don't ask the question.
PEOPLE NEED TO GROW UP & STOP BEING SOO IGNORANT!! MOST GOOD BLACK MEN DATE OUT IS BECAUSE WE FOUND SOME ONE WHO ACTUALLY TURN US ON & BE OUR PARTNERS?THIS IS CREEPY. WHY WOULD ANYONE CARE WHO THE NEXT PERSON IS SLEEPING WHITH.