When Does No Mean Yes? Why on the Internet of Course!

One of the problems with using Instant Messenger services on the internet, such as Skype, ICQ, Yahoo, etc, are the bands of men and sometimes women, who use it as a way to find sex partners. Now whilst being hit on is no big deal, the assumptions that appear to be rife amongst many of these cyber seekers is becoming a growing problem.

I use one of these IM services as I have family overseas and, quite frankly, it's a hell of a lot cheaper to chat to them on voice this way than it is on the phone. As such you can guarantee that if I appear online I'm suddenly, apparently, looking for sex!

Offers from Americans, Englishman, Turks, Egyptian's, Indian's, French, you name it, I'm contacted by men who promise to take me to heaven and back again with their sexual prowess.

Before I've even had the chance to block them I've had lewd comments, and declarations that I'm obviously unhappy, unsatisfied and looking to get laid because I logged online.

Wow, I didn't know my marriage was an unhappy one. Or that logging onto the internet meant I was looking for cyber sex. Those rare few I reply to, to politely say 'thanks but no thanks' often reply with a barrage of 'but baby please help me out.'

No doesn't mean no on the net. They don't see an issue with pestering women, or men for that matter, for sex and, of course, their poorly written fumbling's in IM are meant to arouse and interest me.

It's made all the more amusing to me, by the fact that I do, amongst other things, write erotic romance for a living. And 'Baby I do U gud' just isn't erotic to me. Or any other woman I've ever met for that matter. And the thought of some strange waggling his dangly bits at me just isn't arousing. Please. If I wanted to see that I'd head off to a Ladies club where at least the guys there now how to move to a beat.

I'm married. Thank you. I'm not a swinger. Voyeurism isn't my thing. And just why would I get naked on cam for some stranger? I'm not an exhibitionist either. Not my thing. What is my thing? Well, I've been with my husband for eight years now and I'm quite happily married. No, they don't get the details either, despite attempts to find out just what we do. There's plenty of good erotica and erotic romance out there if they really do want some spicy reading material. Ah, but that would mean paying for it, wouldn't it?

Perhaps that's the real reason why no now, apparently, means yes on the internet.