When Hot Girls and Awkward Guys Do Not Mix; What is that All About?

How many of us say that if we ever had the opportunity to be with the baddest girl out there we would not mess that up and we would never let her go, and then when we get with that girl we mess it up, and we end up letting her go. A lot of us might cheat on the girl with someone that we aren't even attracted to. Instinctively, a lot of men want a beautiful girl but a lot of men do not really think that they deserve to be with a beautiful girl. At the end of the day those girls move on to someone that might not be the best match for them, but is someone that gives her the attention that she deserves, treats her right (at least in the beginning) and knows how to keep a woman.

I have been in too many situations to count where that happened to me. My biggest problem was that I never truly believed that the girl was interested in me. I have heard men say that if that opportunity comes to you that it is here today and gone tomorrow. That is the furthest thing from the truth the opportunity might last for months, even years. It all depends on the girl. A lot of men are intimated, a lot of men simply do not want to believe it and a lot of men do not believe in themselves.

The biggest mistake that you can make is to concern yourself with what that girl is doing at that particular time. If she is not in a relationship and no one wants her, you probably do not either. So chances are when that beautiful girl comes your way she is already in a relationship, or has a lot of friends that hang on in hopes that something can happen between them or has a lot of guys that will push you aside to talk to her. Chances are she is never truly alone. So if you want her you are going to have to be persistent, steady, and reliable but a bit unpredictable. Show her that you are serious about being with her but at the same time, you aren't going to tolerate just anything and be taken for granted; but you need to have the leverage with her before you can even take that position. In other words she has to need you, as opposed to want you, for something.

If she merely wants you there are a lot of other guys that she wants as well, and your position is weak. If she needs you other advances from other men could be trivial, because they do not have anything that she needs. But it cannot be sexual, this need has to come from another place because again, girls can get that anywhere. So you have to take your time and get to know her. I was always that guy that, as good as I was, some other guy was always better than I was at something. I was always the guy that always found something else and was easily distracted; so take the time to find out if this is really worth your time and effort. Do not put time and effort into everything that you do, just because, show some discretion and tact; what is so special about someone that is just after you because they are up to the challenge? So are ten other guys; so you have to differentiate yourself from the playing field.

Another thing that we have to realize is that hot girls always have hot guys after them. A corny example is what transpires in the movie Valley Girl between Randy and Julie. A lot of us have been in situations where "Julie" is intrigued but would never date us because we do not fit into their world. Randy wasn't the best looking guy, but he wasn't the worst looking one either. But he was persistent, and made Julie feel better than Tommy was capable of doing. This happens every single day of the week, all day, every year. There is always someone out there who is intrigued, and someone who is persistent and believes that much in themselves they are willing to face the opposition. In our ideal world, Julie would be alone at home and no one would know about her, which makes it easier for us to move in. That situation almost never happens; 9 times out of ten you are going to have to go against the opposition, that is just the way that it is.

If you do not you are going to sit around and watch her date various men and ride off in a lot of nice cars and go nice places while you wait until no one else is around so you can talk to her. That day always comes, but is always interrupted by another guy. It is a weak, lame excuse and most times some other girl comes in the picture and you move on. Some girl you do not have to chase after so much, but a girl that is rarely as hot as the one you were preoccupied with.

A lot of men simply want a girl to understand their position, and that only happens if the girl is as awkward, off, eccentric and as much of a geek as you are. There is nothing wrong with that scenario that is probably the girl that you are going to end up with anyway and have twelve children by. Most times those girls are hot in other ways. But if you are serious about getting that hot girl you may have to settle for an intellectual, yet uninformed, curiosity. Also realize that she is just as nervous and unsure about getting to know you as you are about getting to know her.

Most of you guys would get Kim Kardashian but then walk around complaining that she is dense or that she does not get you. Well of course she doesn't get you, but she did give you a chance! At the end of the day a chance is more important than throughly understanding or appreciating someone; that can come in much later. Most of the girls that you are supposed to be able to date are chasing after bad guys, so I would take that chance and run with it. At the end of the day, girls like Kim Kardashian, or Stacey Dash, or Lisa Raye, Janet Jackson, Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Meagan Fox, Meagan Good (you see where I am going with this), they just don't date guys like us. That doesn't mean that they never would, but most times we would never see it because the opportunity is not staring us right in the face. Well at times the opportunity actually is staring at us right in the face but we are not looking at in the face, we are looking down towards the ground, or looking in another direction. So someone else takes that opportunity away from us before we can realize what happens.

But every once in a while you will actually see this couple as proof of its existence. You may not believe it at first and wonder what she sees in him. You might be kicking yourself because you had a chance yourself, like 15 years ago. It is a beautiful thing, because timing and perseverance is often more important than being cool or being perfect. I love to see it myself; but it simply is not meant to happen to everyone that way. If it isn't working out for you find someone else to talk to; it rarely happens when you are ready always when you least expect it. Life is too short, just, don't mess it up if the opportunity presents itself again ...