When is the Marriage Over?

In the beginning of most marriages the sexual chemistry is off the charts. Each day after the next is filled with unbridled discovery and bliss. Then slowly time begins to pass, and before you realize it the relationship with your partner has somehow taken a turn for the worse. Now the chemistry between both partners slowly begins to lose its luster, and the once joyful conversations have almost halted completely.

No longer are the passionate kisses or warm embraces felt. Not even a loving word is passed between the two. But you learn to adjust and live your days as if nothing had ever happened. Soon your heart begins to long for the days that used to be, but you realize now that they're gone for good.

You remember taking the vows "till death do us part" but are you really ready to fight this relationship to the very end? Now you begin to wonder if the relationship is even worth fighting for. If some of these thoughts have crossed your mind, then maybe it's time to take a real hard look at your marriage and your relationship.

Infidelities along with emotional and physical abuse are the top two causes of divorce today. One serious mistake can sometimes be excused. But, if you feel that either of these will be an ongoing situation then it's time to end the marriage immediately.

If your partner "always" seems to be too tired for intimacy that's a definite warning sign that something has gone sour in the relationship. Talk with your mate about your feelings, and get their opinion on the matter. If talking is out of the question then the only option left is counseling.

Alcohol and substance abuse is another factor which ends many good marriages. Both of these substances has a way of not only altering a person's personality and emotional outlook, but are also very devastating to most marriages.

Many times so much hurt has been endured in these situations that it's almost mentally impossible to get beyond it. When anger is mentally suppressed for long periods of time, and releasing this anger is virtually impossible, then maybe it's time to consider ending the relationship.

Sometimes marriages go through a "broken record syndrome." Every conversation or argument seems to be about the same ole thing. The past is constantly recalled every time a discussion begins. And now you end up arguing all over again just what you discussed the day before. Repeating this scenario over and over is a sign of bad communication in the marriage.

Another situation that puts a strain on a marriage is a spouse who's constantly away from the home. Do you begin to think of scenarios that will keep you away from home? If you answered yes to this question then maybe it's time to consider ending your relationship because your emotional needs are not being met.

Below is a list of situations to read. If your primary answer to these questions is yes, then it would probably be best to consider ending your relationship.

* Do most of your discussions end up in an argument?

* Have you lost the respect of your partner?

*Has the sexual compatibility been lost in your relationship?

* When you and your partner disagree, is it hard to reach a compromise?

* Do either you or your spouse continually refer to hurtful events from the past?

* Does either partner feel un-attracted to the other?

It's very hard to end a marriage especially when children are involved. But sometimes couples just seem to grow apart for several reasons. Communication has broken down and silence is now the biggest part of the relationship. Now that the relationship is no longer emotionally stable, it's time to think about getting some professional help.

If both partners are still in love and feel that the marriage can be saved; counseling just might be the key to saving the marriage. But, if only one partner is interested in the relationship it's time to end the relationship and move on with your life.

Don't be discouraged over one failed attempt at marriage. Get to know your next partner very well before entering into a long term relationship. Just because you bit into one bad apple doesn't mean the whole bushel is bad. There's always one bad apple in the bunch, maybe you just picked the wrong one.