When Signals Get Crossed: Friends Who Get Too Emotionally Attached

I just recently had a revelation. Being just friends means being just friends. I just had a situation where someone who I thought was just my friend told me that they liked me.

They wanted me to break up with my girlfriend and date them. They also told me that they dated their last boyfriend to actually waste time while I was dating my girlfriend. It hit me as a total surprise.

Why is staying platonic so hard for some people? This person would flirt with every guy she worked with. She was dating a guy with a kid who she was real close with. The boy would call her mother and she actually wanted to be apart of his and his fathers life.

She would always ask me to come over my house and chill. She once told me I spent too much time with my boys like she was my girlfriend.

Part of me was sympathetic to her because I have had friends that I thought I would be perfect for. I was there when they needed help or a shoulder to cry on but it just never click.

I thought that if I was a great friend and was there that they would like me and want to be with me. I realized that I wasn't for them. I realized that no action from me could make them feel a certain way about me.

In the end, we had a heated discussion and we ended our friendship. It's sad when you put feelings where they shouldn't be. You can get hurt. She cried and said this was all a big misunderstanding.

Now I don't know how this affects our work relationship because we do work together. Being just friends means being just friends. And that phrase just got a little bit more concrete.