When Are We Ready for Marriage?

When is the best time to marry? Is it when you fall in love? Do you just wait until a couple of years go by, evaluate and make a final decision? How do you know when you are ready to say it, "I do." These are the questions that plague life partners everyday in their lives; knowing when is the right time. But we won't know were anymore ready than we did when we suddenly got promoted to executive assistant last month. Maybe proposals and saying "I do," is just one of those things you just know. Perhaps one day you do ask yourself that question and say, "I would."

It doesn't make it any easier when the divorce rate is almost more than half the population in the United States. Couples file for divorce everyday while others marry in less than a year they met a person. Is that a problem and should that be discouraging for a couple looking to tie the knot? Possibly, maybe another thought is just to make you aware of what's out there. Because all things in life are much more complicated than what they seem.

People view marriage as a potential "lockdown." Being asked to spend the rest of your life with one person can be overwhelming, for some. While some couples are elated by the idea, others are pondering if for certain they are ready to settle down. Age, finances, status and security are important factors in a decision. Perhaps as human beings we are insecure. Without our high-powered wages, gas guzzlers and beautiful dream houses were nothing and think the world pays little attention to us. We call that love? That's material were seeking; misleading us into believing we need these things in order to have a successful marriage.

Even if we divorce, what's the first thing we talk about? Money. Because money is the root of all evil as it snatches the love, kids and our souls into submission. We are misleading ourselves by believing we need these things in order to be successful. Most of our parents have been 30 or 40+ years into their marriage; eliminating or working with problems that would've ran many of us out of the church before, "I do." Maybe we aren't ready yet. Maybe we think we are, but we really aren't. If only we really took the time to learn what marriage means. Our parents married when they had virtually nothing; just a satchel, bible and a one bedroom apartment. But they made it, and so can we.