Who Stole My Queen

Sorry to keep y'all waiting for the next segment in this.. Oh,well never ending saga. But now I'm back. And this time it's all about the brothers!

Now my brothers as some of may know. Especially those of us who make it our business to be a "good man"(self included) and do the right things. Relationships aren't always full of pleasantries and sometimes the women we find ourselves involved with can make things difficult. It can sometime seem that no matter what we do some women can be very unappreciative, cold, inconsiderate and in a lot of instances just think they do no wrong and feel that they do not have to apologize to a man for anything!! Women may adopt these type of attitudes for many reasons. but I believe the most predominant one to be us, "Black Men!" And how we have done things to betray her trust, disrespect her, abuse and demoralize and just flat out break her heart! I know, I know the fellas are saying. "Hey, I thought you said this was something for the brothers?" Just bare with me for a moment. If you will comprehend how after more than few of these pleasant experiences with men. With every new relationship, she may sometimes unconsciously bring certain fears, and confinements. So by the time she meets a good brother (self included) who respects her and truly wants to be an integral part of her life. I n some point he is faced with dealing with emotional and sometimes physical scars of past relationships, which may involve. Trust issues, fear of abandonment, low self esteem, feelings of worthlessness and the fear of being broken hearted once more. So to the brothers who are able and willing to endure these episodes ( self included) , to give her comfort, support, security and reassurance she needs in order for you both to have an healthy and productive relationship. I solute you and thank God for you, for them!

Hold up, Hold up, Hold up! Now I know you didn't think that was it. We not gone put all the blame on the brothers. Y'all sisters have done y'all part as-well! Let's see where should I start? OK! Friends.(or so called). Yeah! Un huh!. you some of you sisters value what theses so called "girl friends" think or say to much. from what they think looks good on you, how to raise your children and amongst other things. The relationship between you and your man! Don't get me wrong. Sometimes when you are on the out looking in you can see things that are otherwise missed. And a good friend, whether it be male or female will know when to voice their opinion and when to respect your decision without stepping on toes or threatening to end the friendship. But there are those girl friends who will talk bad about what is going on between you and your man, while all the while either they don't have one of their own or they would like to make it seem that what you go through with your man is something they could not conceive dealing with. Let me just through a scenario at you. Say it's the weekend and you have your girlfriends over and your beloved (That good brother in your life) has just spoken to you while your girl friends are there and he says he will stop over in a while. You know nothing special, just because it's the weekend and you his boo. But oh y'all are getting low on margarita mix. So you call to ask him if he wouldn't mind stopping and getting some. Uh Oh he doesn't answer his phone, so you leave a message. You try again and yet again, still no answer. So now one of your girl friends gives the others a raised brow look and makes the comment. "See! N....s ain't no good I don't play that type of sh**!" But when your man calls you he has a legitimate excuse. "Hey baby sorry I missed your call. Since I knew you had your friends over I stopped and shot a few games of ball. So is that all you need while I'm out?" But when that so called girl friend calls her supposed to be man. Yeah he may answer but when he does, he's getting loud with her cursing her and may even hang up in her face. But she wont put up with him not answering when she calls. OK maybe that was a quirky example, but I think you get the meaning.

Now about these "so called male friends." This raises the age old question. "Can a man and a woman be just close friends?" For me personally the answer is yes. But! There should be boundaries. Especially if you both are attractive people and especially if you are involved in a relationship. No provocative touching, sexual jokes directed toward each other and definitely no kissing on the lips. Just a warning my brothas. If you meet a woman and she makes the comment that she don't have a lot of girl friends they keep up to much mess. Chances are she has a lot of male friends she's intimate with to which Whom she may dub with the phrase. "That's my cousin!" If I may. "Beware, Brother Beware!" I have seen and even experienced some sisters ruining some very promising relationships , just for a "so called" male friend. And in the process betray trust, demean, disrespect and put right just do a brother who genuinely loves them wrong for a man who she can not say exactly she calls him friend. Nine times out of ten. It's because they have been sexually involved. Yes and I've seen sisters have these men in their home where her and her significant other live have them befriend their man play with their children and so on while all along weaving a web of potential destruction of their relationship with their mate and God forbid something much worse.

Now with all this being said. not to exclude the "you are not the father" "you gone take care of My baby " instead of our child, the breast for beads pole dancing and the ridiculous rise of lesbianism. I now pose the question.

Has my Queen ran off from lifetimes of abuse and under appreciation of black men?
Is My Queen lost between what friends and what family members misconstrued as love?
Or has My Queen been stolen by the wickedness and unGodly underworld of our society that would have her believe that she does not need a Real Strong Black Man?

What ever the case may be. I your loving, strong, supportive, encouraging, compassionate, reliable, loyal, faithful, your more than a conquerer, your overcomer, your mighty man of wisdom son of The Most High, amongst all that is good King! Await your return. I love you!!!

Peace