Who Stole My Queen - Part 3

I once herd a brother say. "I wont date a woman with kids. She's bringing baggage along". What an utterly uncompassionate, ridiculous, speaking without thinking, being a follower instead of a leader, foolish,@#$* to say. Especially when you are quite possibly a "Bastard" yourself! Besides that. The only thing you can pack inside a child is. Morals, social aptitude, values, what respect consist of and the building blocks of becoming a human being. Damn! What ever happened to it takes a village?

Well! This is how I see it. If you are a man with any type of sense of what it means to be a man. You would know that if you involved with a woman, and she happens to be a mother. The more the you pursue the relationship, sooner or later. whether you want to or not. You will, in some form or fashion become involved with her children, and in doing so there comes added responsibility.

Now, I'm not saying you become instant dad. You could quite possibly have children of your own. But you do become a form of male influence,whether the biological father is still in the picture or not. You still have a responsibility. How? You may ask. Well as I mentioned in an early segment. At the absence of a "full time" positive male influence. Adolescence tend to fashion themselves after what is readily available or who they are around the most or who pays them attention. So that includes you. "Mama's boyfriend"!

If she has a daughter(s). The way you treat her mother, especially in her presence can have a profound effect on how she perceives she wants to OR should be treated in her relationships as she gets older. If she has a son(s) it can have an effect on how treats the women he gets involved with. Not only that but the way he treats his mother and sister(s). Now all of the responsibility doesn't fall on the man. The woman's role is most crucial in how she allows herself to be treated. You know! Whether it be good or bad. " He does that because he loves me", or " I can do that because she loves me". Hey people! just because people let you treat them a way that is anything other than respectful doesn't mean you have to! Instead lets give each other respect, meaningful attention, shower each other with gifts and compliments. Couple that with smiles and joyous occasions and laughter. Reciprocate and repeat. Especially in the presence of children. This could give them the tools and positive outlook and foundation on which their relationships. from "puppy love", "teen crushes" well-on into adult matrimony, which in turn hopefully they will pass onto their sons and daughters and so on.