Why Actions Speak Louder Than Words

I received a letter the other day. It was a very kind letter with a lot of deep meaning words involved. After reading the contents I believed it quite possible that mending in this particular communication was quite likely.

Then came the actions that followed this letter.

As kind and heart felt as the letter may have sounded it was clear that the situation was about to go from bad to worse. It has now been almost a year without positive communication from a source that should in theory stand closer that a brother.

The point here is that it is very easy to say all sorts of cool things. However, unless the actions match the words involved it really does not matter what words a person uses.

People can say they are "sorry."

Only their actions will show if they are sorry for what they have done or sorry for getting caught. Depending on which sorry is involved the resulting consequences can been worlds apart.

For example, if your spouse says "I'm sorry for having an affair." The natural and logical question is, are they sorry for the affair or sorry that they were caught in an affair.

Someone once quipped, sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me. Who are they kidding? Words can be extremely devastating. Especially if they are used without thought of motive.

• Relationships fail

• Wars are started

• People are killed

All because words are used in an incorrect manner.

Even kind loving words used with poor timing can be problems. If actions do not connect with the words being used then people are left wondering if they have been lied to or they have missed a greater point?

So words are important, but words that do not match actions lead nowhere fast.

I was married to a habitual liar at one time, trying to understand her words as they compared to her actions led me into a state of chaos and confusion. When words and actions don't match consistently it is hard to understand what is and is not reality and or true.

Therefore words are important but actions related to those words are at least as important if not more even more important than the words of half truth or untruth that were delivered in speech, in writing, or in whatever way they were delivered.