Why Being Very Tall Can Help You Find Mr. Right

Many very tall women complain they can't get dates because of their height. They wear flats and slouch, yet still believe they appear to be too tall for most men. They envy "the short cute girls" who "have all the guys."

Now, let's look at this more closely. I have a real problem with Amazons who gripe about not having as many boyfriends as do the shorter gals. Let's take Amy, for example. She is 5-11. And her friends, Sarah, Susie and Shellie, range in height from 5-3 to 5-7.

Sarah, Susie and Shellie have no problem getting dates. They always seem to have boyfriends. Everywhere they go, men come over and show interest. However, not so with poor Amy. Even when she wears flats, she is taller than many men, and is equally as tall as a lot more. In any group of singles, there aren't many men who are 6-3 and over - unless you attend a college basketball game.

But the average American man stands 5-9. Amy feels big and unfeminine around any man under 6-1. And this is why she believes she can't attract men. And maybe she's right; maybe a lot of men just don't feel comfortable with a 5-11 woman, including taller men. This is a fact. Amy is not imagining anything. Of course, we can't rule out the very real possibility that her self-consciousness is a total turnoff. What man is attracted to a woman who slouches and doesn't present herself with confidence? It's even said that the most beautiful women are the most self-assured.

Amy represents many very tall women. But what Amy doesn't realize is that her height serves as a screening tool for undesirable men. With all the men swarming around Sarah, Susie and Shellie, these "normal" height women must sift through a lot of frogs in an attempt to find a suitable soul mate. This means they are at high risk for getting burned, hurt, even abused. There will surely be lots of fights, tears, hostility and broken hearts - the mere numbers dictate this.

A man who approaches Amy just might be more secure, and even in admiration of her height. What are the odds that he'll be a jerk, if - at 5-10 - he doesn't feel threatened or intimidated by her height? This is the first man in months to notice her. Any chance he might be of good character? How many frogs must she weed through before getting a hit? Amy's height is a filtering tool. She'll date a total of seven men before finding Mr. Right. Meanwhile, her friends will have to get mixed up with 50 each before they find the right man.

So if you think your height is interfering with finding boyfriends, it's time to appreciate how it serves as a screening tool for filtering out man who are insecure and don't feel manly or confident enough to date a woman who's his height or taller. After all, if you were of "normal" height, would you want to get involved with a man who feels insecure or intimidated about dating a very tall woman? Is this the kind of man you'd want to be with? You have a built-in screening machine that will save you a lot of time and effort; stop griping, and thank your lucky stars for it.