Why Buying Expensive Gifts May Not Be a Good Idea

There are times when we feel that we want to spend extra money on a gift for someone, perhaps because we want to show some extra caring or emotion. I don't think this is a good idea and I'll explain here why I feel this way. Also, I'll suggest what I think is a better way to make a special gift.

Setting an expensive gift precedent is not a good thing. As you give these costly gifts, it's likely your partner or friend will become accustomed to the high priced gifts and expects to receive one on each occasion. So, what happens the first time you don't produce an "Oh my goodness" gift? He/she could feel you care less or maybe you've found a new friend. Creating the expectation of a high priced gift is dangerous and unnecessary.

Offering explanations for suddenly giving a less expensive gift usually doesn't work. On the surface there may be verbal understanding and smiles but underneath there will likely be a nagging question about why the change in gift cost.

Some expensive gifts are made because the giver is not sure of himself/herself and seeks to become more important by means of a costly gift. It seems that this is a last ditch effort and does not work as a long term success. If the goal is a momentary gain in status or feelings, it might work but its' doubtful that a lasting success will come about. And the recipient may consider you as lacking in confidence.

High levels of emotion and feeling can be conveyed by giving the best things of life which are "free". Collecting items for a special tribute or maybe a special gathering of native flowers can carry a good deal more meaning than manufactured things. When your partner or friend realizes that it took some time and energy to get the gift together, there may be greater appreciation.

Making or constructing a gift is an excellent way to spend little money and convey a lot of feeling. Almost all people will feel honored when they receive a gift that has been made by the giver. It took time, thought and effort to make the gift and these things are most often appreciated. Also, consider what kind of partner or friend do you have if the only thing they appreciate is very expensive gifts? Do they really care for your or do they just care for the gift?

You can show a lot of emotion and feeling without spending a lot of money.