Why Doesn't He Listen to Me?

Why doesn't he listen to you? Men close their ears to women for many reasons. Believe it or not, most of those reasons can't be blamed on the man. Men and women just don't think the same way. For one thing, most of us women love to talk just for the sake of conversation. Men can be conversational if they like the subject matter. Most of the time, though, they're brief and to the point. It makes sense that they expect the same from you, doesn't it? If you're still thinking, "Why doesn't he listen to me?", consider this:

Maybe you're too repetitive. We women are persistent, aren't we? We'll try to convince someone our idea has merit over and over. We do like to be right. Why doesn't he listen to you? Because he's already heard your arguments, made his mind up and dealt with the issue. He's moved on. You're still trying to change his mind. He's just not interested in this subject anymore.

You choose the wrong subjects to talk about. He really doesn't care about what dress your best friend wore to the party. He may not even care what you wore. It's not his area, as they say. It isn't that he doesn't care about you. He'd just rather talk about something else. Why doesn't he listen to you? Maybe you just haven't found the right subject.

You've been on the same subject for hours. It might have been interesting at first, but there's just nothing more to say. When women find a subject our man likes to talk about, we have a tendency to take it too far. Men aren't traditionally as gabby as women. Once it's all been said, they sometimes shut down. Don't take offense. They tried to tough it out, honest.

He has something on his mind. You're really excited about your new promotion, trip, etc. You're talking a mile a minute. Suddenly it hits you. He hasn't spoken for a while. Why isn't he listening to you? Maybe it's not about you. Maybe he's going through something difficult. He might not be ready to share it with you. Maybe he doesn't want to burst your bubble with his not so positive news.

He's self absorbed. Not every man has your best interests at heart. Some of them are not only not into you, they're mostly into themselves. They could care less what you have to say. How do you know? Well, frankly, most of these guys will tell you right up front they're not into commitment. Maybe you just haven't been listening to them.

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