Why You Should Forgive Even If It's Not Your Fault

Did you know that if you harbor resentment or animosity toward someone, that when you pray to God that he may not listen to your prayer? That's right according to Matthew 5: 23 -25, "If then, you are bringing your gift to the altar, and you remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar, and go away first and make your peace with your brother, and then when you have come back, offer up your gift."

Also at 1 Peter 3:11, we are admonished, "to seek peace and pursue it." To use the noun "pursue," conveys an action on our part.

I know forgiving a person who has wronged you and moving on is hard, but it is possible to do.

Just remember that forgiving the person who wronged you is not about the other person, it's about you. You do this not to let the other person off the hook, but to let yourself off for many positive reasons. It releases emotions like anger, resentment and also hurt that were caused because of what the person done to you.

According to Vijai P. Sharma, Ph.D., "forgiveness is not about setting with those "ifs" and "buts," it's unconditional. By setting conditions, we give power to our tormentors. When we leave those power with them, they can hurt us again. Forgiveness is really about empowering yourself and taking back the control in your own hands."

Forgiveness also is the best revenge. People think by harboring those feelings caused by the wrongdoer and staying mad you are hurting the person who hurt you. Not so! If it was their intention to hurt you, clinging to the pain multiplies the wrongdoer success. The best revenge is to let it go and be happy.

Forgiveness is also good for the health. People who harbor ill feelings toward another person suffers stress, anxiety, depression, anger, hatred, jealousy, ill will, sadness, etc. Letting go of that anger you become more peaceful and satisfied with life.

Forgiveness makes you a better and stronger person. Being able to forgive in the end will make you a stronger person. Because forgiving is something that at times is so hard to do, if you do it, it will only make you stronger!
For me personally it makes it easier to look at myself in the mirror and when I am around the person who did hurt me I no longer have those knots if my stomach and always watching and concentrating on that person.

So if anyone in your life has hurt you and you harbor resentment.....let it go! ......let it go today! Even go that extra mile and ask for forgiveness even if it's not your fault. You will sleep well tonight and also improve your prayers and relationship with the True God!