Why I Gave Up My Life-Long Dream of Being a Wedding Coordinator

All my life, I dreamed about growing up to be a wedding coordinator. I wanted to be able to share the joy with many different couples on their special day. I came to the hard realization a year ago that becoming a wedding coordinator was not something that I was cracked up to do.

When I first set out into the field of wedding coordination, there was not a lot of competition in my area. Then, with the dawning of all of the wedding shows on Cable, my competition began to grow.

I was an independent coordinator who was not attached to any particular company. I was able to set my own prices, and was able to keep all of the money that I made.

Since there was more competition, the larger event coordination companies started to lower their prices to make sure that they kept the same amount of clientele. This was also an attempt to put as many independent wedding coordinators out of business. There were many people that realized that they could not afford to deal with the losses that they were going to receive.

Also, I realized that reception halls had a strange reason for wanting to work with coordinators. I realized that if anything ever went wrong at the hall, management could easily attempt to blame the wedding coordinator. There were multiple instances where this occurred. In most cases, the bride realized that the issue was not caused by me, but by the hall.

I also became discouraged by the late night calls from anxious brides that could not wait until the morning to go over some last minute details. I used to think that these brides were a little selfish for not allowing me to sleep.

Also, there are many times in which the wedding coordinator will be thrown into the middle of family squabbles. In cases like this, the wedding coordinator is torn between family members over certain issues about the wedding. These circumstances are very unfair to the person that is trying to help.

Most men are against having a wedding coordinator. It grew very tiring trying to convince a husband that my services were needed for the wedding. Most men do not realize that women are not 100% sure on all aspects of a wedding since birth. Also, men do not realize how stressful organizing a wedding when you have a job, or other responsibilities.

I have left the field of wedding coordination. It is best that anyone who is going to try wedding coordination as a part-time or full-time job know what the struggles are. It is best if someone opens up as to what issues will be faced before hand.