WHY DO GUYS HAVE a HARD TIME COMMITTING

Men, being faced with a long term relationship, may not jump right into it as fast as the anxious woman might think he should. She may be all giddy and bubbly about the prospects while he may seem to be a bit standoffish. There is no mystery to a guy having a hard time committing in a relationship; no science, no secrets, only fact.

For the most part it doesn't matter if the guy has had one or more relationships that have soured on him over the past few years. Never mind that he has been successful and has accumulated a very attractive financial portfolio. Don't let the fact that the guy in question has a lot of single friends bother you either. None of these stand out as the real reason a guy has a hard time committing in a relationship.

Simply put, a guy does not want to commit because he is having such a good time without the responsibility of a commitment. He can come and go as he pleases. He can spend his money just how he wants to. He can keep company with whomever he wants. He can even go out with other women if he cares to; as long as he is not committed.

A guy is generally content to spend time with a woman and have a good time as long as she doesn't start talking white picket fences and babies. These all spell responsibility and life changes. Visit a single guy's apartment then go to a single women's apartment. See the difference. That is the same way they both live their lives.

The guy is casual, carefree and takes life as it comes. The gal usually leans toward formal, perhaps a bit anal and tries to steer life her way. Your normal guy doesn't want to do that. He simply wants to live the day as it comes then wait for the next one. He knows with a relational commitment that would be impossible.

There would be holiday parties at specific places at specific times. Certain clothes that must be worn, haircuts that must be had and baths and showers till his skin washed off. He would get up at a certain time, go to bed at a set time and live the time in between to a rigid set of rules. There would be goals, objectives and life size targets to meet. The average guy just wants to make it through life in one piece, and happy.

No, there really is no mysterywhy guys have a hard time committing in a relationship. They know that sometimes you just have to break the rules it's just that they don't want any rules tobegin with. When a guy is ready, he will indeed approach the subject of settling down, maybe it will be with you.