Why Hasn't He Called?

Have you ever wondered what you could have done differently to avoid certain situations? Sometimes it is all about paying attention to the details around you. It is commonly known that one must go through certain experiences to learn and grow and that you shouldn't wish to go back in time because everything happens for a reason. But what if you are just blind to certain things and keep making the same mistakes that are actually stunting you from any type of growth and development in that area?

When it comes to guys, many women are just completely blind to some of the clues that a guy is no longer interested gives. Surprisingly, these clues are actually very obvious. There are some things that should make you automatically erase his number out of your phone as soon as you spot it happening. I believe many women do not want to believe the truth and continue to try and date a guy even when he is not treating her the way she wants him to. It is the fear of being alone. Once you are alone for a while, you start getting used to being by yourself. So that is why some people are rather skeptical about starting something back up with someone because you get used to that feeling of being close to someone and you don't want anything to mess that up. So what do you do? You ignore all of the little signs that he is giving, directly or indirectly. And even with the signs that are too big to ignore, you make up excuses as to why this could be happening. Let's face it, you do not want to hear the truth even though you know it deep down inside.

One huge sign that a guy is not only ignoring you but talking to someone else at the same time is when he doesn't return a text in hours or even days. Now let's think about this, many people have cell phones and text messaging these days. And many people usually have their cell phones with them all day and night, especially younger people. Now you know how you are with you phone, you probably check it often. The only time you miss a call or text is when you are at work, at school, in the shower, driving, having bad reception, or any other time consuming task. Even after you get off work, or out of practice, you have the time to at least glance down at your phone to look at the time. Or if you have a watch, you at least check to make sure you still have your phone on you before you leave somewhere. I given many examples of opportunities that one takes the time to look at their phone, not even including when you actually have to make a call or send a text yourself. So by knowing all of this, you can figure out that if these scenarios are applicable to yourself, then most likely, they are to a majority of cell phone owners that use their phones on a consistent basis.

With that being said, it would seem very unlikely that the call or text you made 12 hours ago still hasn't been noticed by him. No, he hasn't been asleep this whole time. No his phone hasn't been dead for 12 hours. This is what really happened: He got off work, saw your third text message in a row and your missed call followed by another text and got a slight smothered stalked feeling shiver down his spine. He was thinking to himself that you are cute and really nice but you are trying too hard and texting way too much. So what does he do? Well I don't know what he does after that but I do know what he doesn't do; text you back.

Would you like to know what the funny part is about this whole situation? I know there are many ladies who are ignoring some other guys' calls and texts the same way that they are being ignored by the one they actually want to be with. So one of the most obvious ways to realize that you are getting played is by noticing some of the things you might be doing to someone else and notice that the same thing is happening to you.

People can make excuses for days, weeks, months and even years, but the truth comes down to not what one is saying but what one actually does. A guy can make up any excuse in the world to explain why he hasn't called you back in 3 days but the fact that he has not called outweighs the excuse by far. For example, there is a guy you are talking to and things are going great. All of sudden, you haven't heard from him all day and you get a call from a strange number that is not saved in your contacts. It's him. He says that his phone got turned off and that he doesn't know when it will be back on. Now what does a guy who really likes you do in the situation? He attempts to stay in touch with you by any means necessary. He will call you from his friend's phone or anywhere he can so that he can talk to you. Why? Because he wants to talk to you. You should never have to force someone to call and text you. They should be able to do so by their own will. Sure, it would have been very easy for him to just say his phone is off, and that is why you haven't heard from him in a week or two. But honestly, if there is a will, there is a way. If he wants to talk to you, he will find a way; if he doesn't he will find an excuse.

So with all of this being said, ladies please pay attention to the signs that he gives off that clearly show that he is not interested. You might be saying to yourself that if he wasn't interested, he would just tell you. Wrong! No, that will be one of the last things a guy will do. Why wouldn't a guy pick up the phone and call to tell you that he no longer wants to continue to get to know you and he has found someone new? Well, some women would not take that approach that well. Guys don't want to directly hurt a nice girl, they will just do it indirectly. By not calling you back, he is trying to tell you that he is not really that interested. And if he isn't talking to you, he is most likely talking to someone else. Everyone has their secrets, so it should stop coming as a surprise every single time. When you find the right guy who adores you, but doesn't stalk you, he will be thinking of you all day and he will make sure that you know it. Do not settle for less. So make that first step and delete any guys' number in your phone that isn't calling you. It will be the first step taken towards being with the right one for you.