Why Interracial Relationships Happen

Recently I became friends with an Indian student and decided to learn more about their culture and perspective toward dating, especially interracial relationships.

First some background info, my friend was born in India, but moved the United States when he was just 4 years old, so he is pretty much American. However, having parents that have lived a good portion of their lives in the mother country and having plenty of Indian friends, he has been able to keep in touch with my roots.

Anyways, plenty of his non Indian friends are always telling him how attractive they find Indian girls and asking if they would ever consider dating outside their race. According to him, a lot of his friends that he grew up with actually date non Indians. It is too much of a coincidence. But is it? Maybe not.

Here are possible reasons why according to him:

1) It's cool to date outside your race- There is no denying that an interracial couple is a way bigger attention grabber than an ordinary couple. Some people also like the thought of a world where people are blind to the different races and have a sense of general unity.

2) Indians see each other as brothers and sisters rather than merely as friends- Like most cultures, strong friendships develop between children who grow up together, a friendship strong enough to create the kind of love shared between siblings. This translates to all the Indians you eventually meet.

3) You are trying to break away- This is more of a negative factor than the others that I have mentioned. But it makes a lot of sense. Your whole life you are just stuck in one culture and you want to experience what other cultures are like.

4) The guy is non Indian- Most couples are created because the guy asks the girl out. Most of his Indian friends that date are, in fact, girls. It's most likely they were asked out. Indians also tend to be shy and while they may, deep down, like someone, won't do anything about it either because of other commitments or their parents don't think it's a good idea.

5)The glory- You know those Europeans with the sexy accents? Well, to Indians, even Non Indian Americans have that kind of appeal. Indian guys constantly drool over girls of several ethnicities just as Indian girls dream about sexy guys, regardless of their race, asking them out.

6)The Challenge- I don't know about Indian girls, but most Indian guys feel a slight inferiority complex in their physical appearance, be it their relatively short stature, dark skin, or hairy body. Fact is, they believe most non Indian girls do not find them sexy and feel they have to work doubly hard to make it so. When they get the impression that a beautiful non Indian girl likes us, we believe that it is a mixture of charm, personality, and physical attraction, giving their ego a huge boost.

7)Just plain, simple attraction- Growing up in an Indian community, he has seen so many Indian people of the gender that no one really stands out that well from the whole group. You suddenly become really good friends with a non Indian person and you are strongly attracted to him or her because that person is nothing like the other people you know, a rare commodity.