Why Marriages End in Divorce: An AC Experiment

Why do some marriages end in divorce? Being someone that has never been married, I have been able to come up with some reasons why I think some marriages might end in divorce. Deciding how accurate I am with these reasons might be best left for those that have been divorced.

From what I understand, marriage is to be a bond between two people involving a promise or a vow to forever be with each other. If they do make such a promise, then why do they later break it? What reasons could they possibly have to break such a strong and deep promise? In this article, I will share 5 reasons why I think marriages most often end in divorce, in hopes of getting feedback about anything that is wrong or missing with the reasons.

1. Trust
If either person is paranoid or for any reason feels they cannot trust their partner, it may eventually lead to divorce. From what I hear, trust is a very important thing in a marriage. There are people that have a personality where it is very difficult for them to trust others. For people with this kind of personality, I can see how it would be difficult in a marriage where you usually trust your partner. If for any reason you do not trust your partner in a marriage, then it will probably be difficult for your marriage to be successful, as trust appears to be a foundation to what a healthy marriage is supposed to be like.

2. Physical or Verbal Abuse
There are relationships where physical and or verbal abuse takes place. The person being abused often has fears or is threatened by their partner with consequences of separating or divorcing. Because of this, a lot of these kinds of marriages might never reach divorce. There is no reason for verbal or physical abuse in any kind of relationship. If a relationship becomes contaminated with this, then at least one of the two wanting a divorce would make it a reason for why divorces occur, even if the actual divorce does not happen.

3. Cheating
This seems to be a very popular reason for divorces. It makes sense to end the marriage when the promise is broken by your partner. Depending on how you define marriage, the marriage could be considered over when the cheating occurs. If marriage is a promise to never cheat, and you break that promise, that promise is no longer valid. If you stop doing what you meant to do when getting into the marriage, then the marriage is no longer valid.

4. Financial Problems
Sometimes, due to circumstances and living conditions, the couple might experience financial problems due to the marriage. If the total household expenses are not being met by the total income of both partners, then the problem is resolved by either finding another partner which will have a higher income to meet similar expenses, or reducing the expenses which are caused by the two being married. Either way, the marriage will come to an end.

5. Incompatibility
This might be due to carelessness when originally getting married. The couple did not realize their incompatibility when getting married. Sometimes, incompatibility is caused by lack of physical attraction between one or both people in the marriage. Sometimes one might end up taking advantage of the other person to such an extent, that the other person feels the marriage needs to end. There is always the case of one or both falling out of love (whatever this means) and feel the marriage is now just a burden.

I am really not completely sure why some marriages end in divorce. I don't know if it would be wise to explore why marriages that last, do end up lasting, in order to answer this question.

What do you think? Why do marriages end in divorce? Why are the healthy marriages successful? What does it take to have a healthy and successful marriage?

I often hear that a successful marriage requires a lot of patience, persistence, effort, and time. To me, that sounds like a lot of work! Should keeping a marriage have to be this much work? Isn't marriage supposed to just be a representation of the bond that two people share? Why does so much work need to be put into keeping a marriage? And once people have divorced, why do they end up getting remarried?

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