Why Men Cheat with Ugly Women, Or, Well, Women that You Don't Find that to Be All that Attractive ..

I was in a forum one day on Facebook and a young woman asked why do men who have a 9 cheat on them with a 2. Basically stating that they or someone they know could rate themselves 9 out of 10 on a scale of attractiveness, 10 being the highest, and the women they were cheated on with were 2 out of 10. The question is a loaded one; do you feel like the girl is a 2 because of the way that you have gotten to know her, would you think she was a 2 if she wasn't the one that your man cheated on you with, do you see her as a 2 when other men see her differently?

The thing about affairs is that they are a dime a dozen. People like to think that men and women are out on the hunt lying about the status of their relationship, lying about being miserable in the relationship and playing games and making someone feel very special; someone that is not their significant other. Those are stereotypes, old wife's tales about how relationships fall apart. The honest truth about indiscretion is often far more complex and has to do with how people build up each other, and tear each other part (the two who technically should not be in a relationship with each other) than anything else.

There is a difference between being friends with someone, and then that develops into a situation where other things can happen and aggressively pursuing someone to be with. I don't know anyone who is aggressively going after someone they aren't attracted to, though I could easily see where a casual friendship where a lot of one on one time could evolve into something physical, whereas you weren't initially attracted to that individual. The ingredients are simple, two people flirt with other, gaze into each others eyes, share good times, have interesting conversations, and develop a deep friendship with one another. Better yet is when the two are spending a lot of time alone with each other; it doesn't take a "dime", or a "10" for this type of chemistry to develop.

If someone isn't the most attractive, average, or perhaps you aren't even really even remotely attracted to them but everything else is in place you're not really going to turn that down. You don't have to be miserable in a relationship to act out, and you don't have to run across a woman that you never thought you could have been with in your wildest dreams that just happens to be extremely nice and receptive to you either. So instead of wondering why, figure out if this is a relationship that you still want to be in and if it is worth holding onto, is the guy really worth it, and perhaps he isn't really ready for a serious commitment or you two need to reevaluate the situation. A man is going to run across a lot of nice, cool, laid back, and easy to get along with women in their lifetime, tens, perhaps even hundreds. But it doesn't mean that he should sleep with them if the opportunity presents itself or that he should feel free to embark on conversation that is not appropriate between two people who are supposed to be with other people ...