Why Men Are Uncomfortable in a Relationship with Your Male Best Friend

In today's society, it is commonplace to have friends of the opposite sex that you text, call and even hang out with. While most of these relationships never become physical in nature, they can still strain your relationship. How do you know when your friendship goes too far, and when it damages your relationship?

Constant texting, phone calls and email

Men are naturally suspicious when their girlfriend is constantly texting, calling and emailing another man, even if he is just a friend. Talk to your boyfriend about the friendship as soon as you begin dating so that he knows you are just friends and nothing more. We get suspicious that you may have had a fling, hookup, or dated your friend. If you did in fact have a connection with him, it is important to ask your boyfriend how he feels about him being around. If he is uncomfortable, you need to make a choice whether to end the friendship, or your relationship.

You go out for lunch, walks and other date-like events

When we see you going to places with your male best friend that could be considered a date we get suspicious and jealous. While the nature of these date-like events can be similar to just hanging out with friends, it can be seen as a date by your boyfriend. Try to hang out in a group and invite your boyfriend to prove to him that there is nothing suspicious about your friendship.

You try to force your boyfriend to become friends with him

I've been in the situation where my girlfriend wanted me to be friends with her male best friend. I have no problem meeting new people and being social. However, in this situation I felt like the third wheel, which ended up in a fight with my girlfriend. If your boyfriend doesn't want to be friends, then don't force it. Sometimes we feel threatened to know that you share many of the same things with your best friend as you do us.

We feel threatened

Let's face it, when our girlfriend spends a lot of time with another man, we feel threatened. If we tell you that we feel threatened by your male best friend, even if you assured us, everything is okay, we still don't want to fight for your attention. If your boyfriend feels threatened, and you plan to stay with him long-term, you need to decide which relationship is more important to you.

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