Why Men Want to Control a Relationship

These are some of my own thoughts on the subject. It comes up often but, like all puzzles, it has so many answers ... then only more questions. Let me know if you agree with me.

This country was settled by more men than women. Men had to cook for themselves, wash (there was probably little ironing , but, they did that too), keep house and they kept each other company. There were few women and the few that did show up were not really interested in a relationship in the beginning. They owned or worked in saloons or ran stores, restaurants or other small businesses, even farms, if they met somebody it was good and if they didn't, it might have been better.

Men and women both learned to develop relationships and soon they were getting married, acquiring property and raising children … together. In most cases, if anybody worked away from the household, it was the man. He went away from home to work at different pursuits, some forms of work consumed more time than others and certain levels of society developed a trend … the woman stayed home, raised the children … and maybe conducted some 'cottage industry' to earn money that they either contributed to the household or kept for themselves. The World Wars took men away from home (as wars do) and women went to work in factories, stores and other concerns. Some of them never went back home to 'labor' in the household full time again.

They picked up skills, invented ways to do things without the help of males and soon earned a lot of money. Currently, many men earn less than their women. Some of them are even 'house husbands' (men that stay home to care for the children and perform housework). Men may feel as if they 'lost ground' and want to control the relationships in order to be in charge of something. It may be some kind of 'coping mechanism' to make demands and seize control in a relationship. Secure men don't need it.

Modern men have women who might be more educated than them. Some women:
are boxers or martial arts experts, making them more physical than some men,
executives in the corporate world and/or have their own businesses making them more financially secure than some men and some are independent even if they just have a job and have no more, maybe even less than he has, insecurity should not let possessions cause disputes.
In the past, women, discouraged from working outside the home were expected to be subservient by some and some acted accordingly. Today, the woman that accepts the 'ruling' man is more caricature than role model. America should be an egalitarian society with both parties having a say in how the kids are raised, what bills are paid (if that's a problem) and all other household issues. It is my view that anybody (male or female) that attempts controlling behavior is acting from insecurity and might need a vacation. Leave them … they want to be alone.