Why Most Don't Wait Until Marriage to Have Sex

Living without sex is interesting. Actually, it's great. At the age of 15, I was reading the Bible rigourously and came across a passage that communicated to me that sex before marriage was a sin. I am not sure what that exact passage was, but I am glad that I read it at such a young age because doing so has been the best thing I have ever done for myself.

Living without sex feels pure and wonderful. It is true that at times, it can feel odd. Everyone around you seems to be doing it while you are doing everything else besides that, but many people who are having sex do not realize the benefits of not having sex, which are many. Before a person can realize the benefits, they must realize what keeps them from deciding to not have sex. Fear. These fears are listed below.

Fear of rejection from the opposite sex

This is a hard fear for many people to face expecially when the odds seem to be against them. I say that the odds "seem" to be against them because statistics claim that men think about sex almost twice as much as women do. Therefore, the average woman may believe that she may find herself getting dumped by many men once she tells them that she is waiting to have sex until marriage or she may fear that she is being too eargerly proposed to only so that she can be "had."

This fear can only be overcome with faith. A person waiting for marriage must have faith that there is someone out there who is waiting with the same sincerity as they have. Then, the person waiting must proceed to wait even if they reach the age of twenty one and everyone in college is jumping out of their pants. They must even wait until forty if they have to. If the age of forty is scary, please review the fear listed below, "fear of waiting." A person waiting should wear this phrase like a shield: " I will stand in faith even if it takes my whole life time."

Fear of Waiting

Many people who consider not having sex until marriage fear that they will never get married. Well, how many people do you know who have never been married at least once in their life? Not many people end up never having been married. You probably know one in 10 people over 50 who have never jumped the broom, don't you? For some of you, the percentage is even lower. Therefore, a person has no reason to think that if they wait until they are married, they will become one of those one in ten or one in fifty people who never end up married.

Look at Jessica Simpson. She waited, and she got married. Why not you? Also, when you wait, you have to have a reason for waiting and that reason must be able to rise higher than any fears you have in general. Are you waiting because you believe that you are God's temple? Well ,if you end up alone, so what? You remained God's temple didn't you? You have got to stand for something or fall for anything. Therefore, stand and remain standing. What you are standing up for is more important than whatever sacrifice you have to make. However, if you are not at this level yet, remember that most likely, you will not end up being apart of the the very small percentage of people who can say that they have never been married.

Fear of being an Outcast

The young teenager thinking about saving his or herself for his or her husband may believe that he or she will be labeled as an outcast by peers. Unfortunately, most teens do not know that peers that negatively label other peers because of positive choices they make in their lives are not really friends. Most young people do not know that these types of peers come and go, and when they are old and working, they will barely remember these people and will not be able to fathom why they thought about their opinions so much. Most young people do not know that when they are twenty five and on a blazing career trail, their high school peers who got pregnant too early in life will be a bit jealous of them. Basically, being an outcast is nothing to be afraid of. It only lasts for a short period of time. It could last while you are in middle school or high school, but it is worth it.

Basically, waiting for marriage is a sacrifice. You sacrifice the right now for what you really want. You may want many things that come with waiting to have sex until you get married. You may want a husband or wife who knows that he or she has been the only one who knows the most private things about you. You may want to remain a pure and holy temple before God. You may want to ensure that you do not get pregnant prematurely or by any guy or girl who may or may not end up wanting to be with you forever. You may want all of these things. As you sacrifice, just remember, "Good things come to those who wait."