Why You Must Learn to Say 'NO'

There are some people who takes pride in helping others. They are every where and help others at no cost. They won't leave a single chance to help others.
There are some people who are pushed in this noble act of helping others by the above people. They find themselves helpless and carry out the orders and do the things as they were told by the above people. There are some people who simply say no to this noble cause. They are not bad people. They are practical. They know their limits.

In our day to day life, we come in contact with so many different people. Good or bad. In offices or the place where we work, we often notice that some colleagues push their unwanted or less important work to others with sweet request. The people who obey their orders do not always find easy to fulfil their requirements which are forced on them. They just can't say no to these people and their unending requests. These smart people would normally choose a person who would accept their job and help them out without a word. These people are very smart and you would find them every where and in every field. Why accept their request and do their job silently? Can they not utter a word no? What if they say no, at least once and see. When they have the option of saying no, then why they listen to them? These people are to be blamed for the inconvenience they face.

In office or at working place, when some one smart request you to help him to finish his job, you have an open option to say no to him. You can tell him how over loaded you are at this moment and in fact, you wanted some one to help you. The smart guy, who was pushing his job towards you does not have any choice but look for some one else. If he plays the same trick in future, tell him no on his face. Look the difference, you are no more his soft target. He realizes that he can not take you for granted. You are the winner here. In future, he won't disturb you.

What is the reason we say yes to every thing? Why we can't say no instead. There are certain areas where you can't say no and must accept the orders as they come. In army, police or fire dept. or the similar areas where saying no would cost your job. There are bosses in the offices or at various working places where you can not say no and need to listen what they say. Apart from these areas, why we fear to say no is main concern. By saying yes to what ever comes to you, would not prove you good Samaritan. If you really want to be a good person, there are various other areas where you can do your best at your own choice. But let the other people not take you for granted. Don't be a soft target for others. You have a choice of dictating your own terms in many areas.

When you say no to some one, you don't become a bad person. Your social status is not in danger. You just show that person your inability to help him at that moment. After all, you too have your own priorities. Going out of way and help some one is good, provided that person deserves that or he is one who is very close to you. What normally happens is, people start taking you for granted and push their unending demands. It's not their inability but their skill to get the work done from you. Keep this person away from you. Helping others in need is good thing. Your work for charitable institute or for orphans and other social activities which is useful and needed for society, would always give you the satisfaction of doing some noble cause.

A friend comes to you for his problem and put up a request for some money payable when able. This is a tricky situation. If you say yes and give him that money, you are not sure when his happy days would come and he would repay your money back. You can tell him the financial crunch you are already in to. Your friend would still press you hard as he is in need of money. Tell him, may be you would be able to him after some days. Buy that time. Think carefully if you really want to help him or avoid him. If you don't want to pay him as you are not sure if your money would ever be returned back to you, in that case, say him no in decent manner. He should not feel insulted. If you observe the above transaction, you would realize how many options were available with you before saying yes or no. Use these options every time you deal with smart people. When the the things are not in your favor, take your own time an then reply. If need be, buy some time and you would come out with better option. Decision delayed in these cases, often solve your problem.

A some one in the family invites you for a dinner. You are not comfortable with this some one. Tell him you are not well. He won't listen and still press you hard. Tell him some other time but not today if you do not wish to hurt him. He is still firm to take you out for dinner. Suggest changes in his program. He would not prefer. Try to involve other family members instead of going alone with that some one. By now he would realize, you are not interested. You are safe now. There is no reason to say yes to any one unless you feel it safe from within. Your mind often gives you the correct signal. Take a little time and listen what your mind tells you.

So you need to learn to tackle these people. They are every where. Once you learn to say no, these people would stop following you. There are insurance agents, Realtors, investors and many such business minded persons who wants to sell their product to you. You are safe as long as you manage to say no to them. No matter, how attractive the offer may appear, take your own time and think over many times before coming to conclusion yes.

Sooner or later, you would find yourself unpopular among your colleagues and groups. You are no more easy target for any one. You have learnt to say no. You know how to protect yourself. No one would ever dare to play his dirty tricks on you. The word No has such power which will take your care no matter how unpopular you are but, you are still a winner.