WHY SEX is IMPORTANT in a RELATIONSHIP

Some times we may like to think that we don't need sex to have a good marriage. I know I thought that once, only once, back when I was a teenager. I was so infatuated with a girl that I told her I didn't need sex; just be with me. I wanted to be with her so bad that I thought I was willing to forego sex just to have her there at my side.

I was wrong, dead wrong. I needed the sex and I wanted it. We weren't married but it was still a relationship. I can only imagine how much more important sex is in a married relationship. Why is sex important though? What makes it such a vital part of our married lives? I've thought about this and have come up with some thoughts I would like to share;

PHYSICAL FULFILLMENT: The most obvious reason I can think of is simply physical fulfillment. Our bodies are designed for sex and our minds are programmed to find it. Like any physical urge, our sexual drive demands attention. All of us can go a period of time without sex but ultimately our bodies remind us of the impending need for fulfillment. If our marriage does not provide the all important sexual release it makes it even more possible that we will seek it elsewhere. It is the most basic reason for why sex is important in a marriage but I believe it will turn out to be the most important one.

EXPRESSION: True love demands expression. We can make our eyes as dreamy as we want but that does not satisfy. We can hold hands and hug all night but that will not extinguish the burning within us. When we love we tend to throw our all into the effort. My heart aches, my stomach rumbles, my head hurts and I just need to touch the object of my sentiments. Somehow I need to express the feelings welled up within me. Words most often won't satisfy and gestures fall short. I need to express to the one I love exactly how I feel. Sex is a wonderful way to fully express your feelings for someone; both on the giving and the receiving end.

YIELDING: Yielding is an extension of the expression explanation. At times the love inside builds to crescendo that can only be quenched by knowingly giving of your all to the person you love. Not just expressing your love for that person but allowing the other person to take what they need and what they want. It's vital that each partner lets the other one know how important it is to them to make sure their partner is pleased. Sex is the important tool used to fully exhibit that gift by fully yielding to your mate.

AFTER THOUGHT: Without sex you would have no after sex. The after sex is sometimes nearly as enjoyable as the sex itself. I roll over, pull my lover to me, lay her head on my chest and bathe in the comfort of her love as it continues to enshroud me. That magic 30 minutes directly after sex is the most important 30 minutes a married couple can spend together. Your mind is still full of thoughts of sugarplums and your loins are still smoldering. Now I can fully sense the smoothness of her breasts as they press up against my side and ribs. I can smell the softness and sweetness of her hair as she lays her head on my chest and I breathe in her essence. I can stroke her arm and feel her hand caress the hair on my chest as we both come down from our sexual high. What a gift to be able to spend that time with the one you love.

Sex affords a married couple private time. It allows, no demands, privacy. It is a time for each of the partners to discover their life partner. Search, investigate, question; this time belongs only to you and your partner. Life gives us so little opportunity for intimate privacy that the moments that do come our way are exceedingly valuable.

Sex brings us closer as a couple than probably any other activity. We have the time to ourselves and it is our chance to become absorbed within one another. Soon, the time will disappear and it will be back to reality. Take advantage of the few minutes allotted to us and make sex as important in your marriage as love itself is.