Why You Shouldn't Be Upset About a Split

You were in a relationship that was slowly sliding off the cliff. No matter what anyone says, we always know when the relationship is going south. When the break up finally happens, it really should not be that big of surprise. When the relationship is over..there's no reason to be upset.

1. You can always do better
This seems to speak for itself. No matter what, you can do better. If there was something you didn't like about them, then you can find someone who doesn't do nor have that problem. You've also now learned those things you really like in a person, and the things you really don't like in a person. That means the person you begin dating next, will definitely be better...as long as you keep up your standards.

2. Think of the new opportunities.
As a single person you have a phenomenally new set of opportunities. If you haven't been single in a while, explore and do all the things you couldn't do with them. Anything that was definitely off limits, yet you liked - go do them! Get all of the old friends back together. Start actually associating with all your friends now. Go out with the co-workers for drinks or happy hour. Go have fun!

3. If they weren't the right ones, then they just aren't
When the wrong person walks out of your life...it shouldn't be a big deal. Also, here's a news flash: If they walked out, they're not the right person! That's it...no more questions! So, now you know whom you aren't supposed to be with. Now, go find who you are. Many people can not find love because they don't know how to love, be loved, or even how to treat people. Learn to treat yourself, and you will learn to treat others. After that, go test drive some people and see what "types" you like.

4. Why get upset?
There's an old Buddhist saying that says: there is no good or bad, it's how you chose it to be. There's a lot that can be said for this saying. You must decide whether the break up is good or bad, and whether or not it is worth all the crying and self-pity! No! Get up...start smiling, and get happy. It's been shown in study after study that just the act of smiling or frowning will help put you in that emotional state. So smile! Keep yourself feeling good, feeling happy, and feeling top-of-the-world! When that depressions sneaks in (because it will!) , write down a list of all the reasons it's a good day, great time, etc.

5. It's just a chemical dependency.
What is love and adoration? It's a cocktail of hormones and pheromones reacting together to change your brain chemistry. When your brain chemistry moves around, and one side of the brain gets more chemicals and dopamine than the other - you're in love. However, suddenly the brain receptors start to want this dopamine rush. So they ask for more and more and more and more, till they have to have the full body motherload - SEX! The stronger these dopamine receptors, the stronger the need for filling these receptors. Does this sound like drug addiction? Good...because that's what it is. When that person comes around, the dopamine is let out and fills the receptors. When they are gone...and there won't be anymore dopamine your body goes into detox. These are the dead relationship blues. So, it's just drug withdraw, pick yourself up!