Why is it so Hard to Get Child Support ?
What is our world coming to?We have laws out there to force the absent parent to pay child support.The process is just very hard to do.Even if you make it through the process get awarded your child support doesn't mean you will get it.Plus most of the absent parents lie about how much they make so that they can pay the least amount possible.It doesn't matter to them if it only hurts the children in the end.Just as long as their x partner fails.
I don't know how it is in your state.These are the process that you can go through in the state of Florida to get awarded child support.First way is divorce.You must remember that it cost money to go through this.You can go to the local clerk of courts and apply for indigence.This alone only makes it a little cheaper.I myself am going through a divorce and went to my local office and applied.You must fill out paper work and sit and wait for the answer.
They ask you about your income.How many children you have.They want to know all your bills and how much they are.So i filled out the paper work and waited.It came back that i will have to pay $400.00 to go through my divorce.I explained that I was a single mother of four and could not afford that type of money.Since I wasn't getting child support on my two with my husband.
They offered me a payment plan of $20.00 a month till it was payed off.Yes this would be a great thing if I could even afford that.At the time my income was approx $1800.00 a month my bills total at Approx $1650.00 a month.This leaves very little for toilet paper,laundry soap etc..You get the point.I have basic bills electric,water,phone,rent thats it.No room for play money.
I was able to make my first payment started all the paper work and waited for a hearing date.Christmas came and there was no way I could afford that extra $20 than January payment and I am really trying to catch up on rent.I get a letter that says "you are behind $41.00 with the courts.If you do not pay we can not set your hearing and we may close your divorce case.I really wasn't in a big hurry for the divorce but I need that child support.What am I to do now allow my phone,maybe water be shut off.
Can't they see that I am a struggling mom.Or does the court only care if they get there money.Now heres the second way in Florida to get a form of child support.It's called AFDC.Aid for Dependant children.This is a great idea if you could get your hands on it.In order for you to get this aid you must not have a job or any income coming in.On average you may get $500.00 a month and that sure will not pay the bills.
So if you have a income you will not get this help.Now you can try to go to a charity place for bill assistants.Heres the catch.If your bills total more than your income they wont help.Who cares that you a trying to start out and you are in the process of trying to get child support.The bad thing about this is even if you are court ordered child support and they stop paying and you go there for help.They won't because they will not supplement your income.
Here is the third shot at child support.Go to your local child support enforcement office.Fill out the tons of paper work they hand and wait for hours for them to see you.Kids crying because they are bored and hungry.Than someone comes out and says to you "why didn't you leave the children with a sitter?"Maybe because we can't get the dead beat dads to pay.Finally it's my turn to go in and they ask a few question and tell you to go home and wait for them to send a letter.
Great you know this gonna take awhile.The famous words we need to find the father..I give them address and phone number and they still need to find him..Hello!! I don't think so.This was back in October of 2006 and I still haven't got that letter.Okay if you are one of those lucky ones that do get that letter.It has a court hearing on it.Now your happy and ready for that day.You show up to court and guess what?He hadn't got served so it is now delayed again.
Lets just say they do make it in and you get your award.The father states he only makes $9.00 an hour and you know he really makes $22.00 an hour and he gets away with paying only on $9.00 an hour.This is not fair to you or your child.Okay now that you have got awarded child support through court or where ever.The key thing is are they going to pay it.
State of Florida has ways of dealing with dead beat parents.So they say.First they give you warning.Than they will suspend your licenses.If you still refuse to pay it's jail time for you.Here is the catch.Warning great.License it is only bad when you get caught.Jail now thats even funnier.You have to find them first.Most dead beats go years without being caught.Last but not least they will Lock the dead beat parents social security number..
Whats this do.Well when the dead beat parent files the tax return if they owe any back child support they will pull and hold it.Your thinking I finally going to get some help.Well don't jump to fast.They will hold that tax return for six months before they will release it to you.This is still not a full proof way.Why? Well if they don't file a return than how do you think your going to get the money.
Florida law is three years on a tax file.So this gives them plenty of time to be a pain.All these laws out there to help those single parents don't seem to be helping us.It seems that it is helping the dead beat parent better..The trails and error I have listed goes for those that were never married to.You will go through the same process that I have listed above.Trust me even if you were married or never married.Getting child support is going to be the same.
We need to make the government responsible and force them to go after these dead beat parents.It's not right that they should get away with this.As you can tell these ways that they have are not full proof and it is causing single parents to go crazy.All the hard work just to get awarded and than to have to fight to get it.The government complains that there are to many people on well fair and not going anywhere.Well crack down on dead beat parents and force them to pay.
Stop giving them a slap on the hand.Make it harder for them to walk away.If they can lie down and help make the baby than they should be forced to pay for the baby.Start checking on what they really are making.Don't allow them to lie about how much they make.For the dead beat parents that quote have there own company don't take there word for it.People do lie.
To all the readers out there.One day this might be you.So why don't you join in the battle now against dead beat parents to insure that it doesn't happen to you in the future or even your children's future.Help us take a stand against dead beat parents..
To all you dead beat parents.Remember they only person you are truly hurting is the child.You may think your hurting your X more but you are wrong.When that parent has to work longer and harder days it takes away from your child.When it come to birthday time and they only get one gift.Or when they need to go to the doctors and there's no money for medicine.Or maybe When there's only enough money there for a loaf of bread.
The child may be young enough now to not understand but in the end they do grow up and they will blame you for it all.No one will have to tell them.They will stop and look back and remember when they were told "I am sorry I don't have enough money for you to get that."Or I can't afford for you to go on that field trip."
So stop and think real hard.I mean real hard.Who are you really hurting? Your X or your children.Or here an idea who are you hurting the most? Yourself for being a dead beat parent and ruining your future with your child!!!!!
Published by Ladyfire11
I am a single mother of 4.Thanks to my kids I have learned that life is way to short to not have fun and speak your mind with freedom.Through my eyes I hope to open yours.. View profile
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3 Comments
Post a CommentSo I can see that the first loser that commented is a guy, smh! Sooooo you mean to tell me that just because most marriages end in divorce that the ffather has no rights to pay support for his children. You statements were really unsessassasary because you didnt talk about the topic, you did nothing but belittle the person who posted this. The bottom line is.. When a man and a woman have a child BOTH parents are responsible for that child. There is not 'Opt Out' option. And What she is saying is that the system is making it very easy for men who dont want to help with the children, to just bail withough helping at all. the women should not, under any circumstanses have to raise their children alone. If the father is not deceased then they should pay up, simple as that. You cant decide to have kids with someone and then when you dont feel like it anymore, just leave. No, that is not fair to the other parent.
I disagree!! lmao why would you be on birth control if you were married and loved this person? I hate people that judge people when they don't even know them.this person below obviously doesn't raise kids on his own and has never been in that situation. I am very proud of you for working as hard as you can for your children and not giving up. I am...was.....a single mother also....was young and stupid and made mistakes, but i learned and grew from them i worked two jobs and went to night school. Nobody is perfect and you will get by..... your children will realize you did what you can and as long as your kids have a warm roof under their head food in there tummys and lots of love...they will thank you and love you for it later on in life....and appreciate that you didnt give them up because it was "to hard" or "the father was a better fit parent" screw that. You took responsibility for your kids as a mother would.....as MOST mothers should. Your not going to say "hmmm this child grew i
If you cannot support your child and yourself, you have the option to give full custody of your child to the father. Maybe he has a better education than you and makes more money.
Why do you not face some responsibility? Did you not know before you got married that 50% of marriages end in divorce? Did you make sure you had a good education and career before you got pregnant? Do you know what birth control is? blaming the father because your life is not a struggles is crazy. Everyone struggles, married couples struggle to pay bills and buy food, too.
I beat if you had a good education and job before you got knocked-up and had a good job, you would not be winning. Your lack of foresight and mature planning, is no reason we all showed feel sorry for you. And hiding behind, El libre Nino, ( the mask of the child ), will not hide your face.