Why Do so Many Marriages End in Divorce?

I have been married and as quickly divorced. I am still suffering the scars from that fiasco. I put the misery to rest after a year and a half of marriage agony. I can't even tell you the date of the nuptials, it has been burned out of my memory. Just like the pain of child birth is erased soon after you have a child. I am told the pain is blocked out or forgotten in order to have more children, because if you remember that pain succinctly I am sure our population would be significantly less. It must be the case with divorce also if you really remember the emotionally pain of it all you would be less likely to repeat it.

Unfortunately marriage these days is like dating. Usually you meet someone, you date, of course everything is wonderful you are seeing stars and smelling roses the entire time. And then by some wonderful stroke of sheer genius someone in the relationship brings up the wonderful idea of marriage. Hold up wait a minute let's back up how did we go from incredible "you know what" to walking down the isle? Waking up looking at the distorted swollen morning face and bed head, not too mention the implausible what used to be cute morning breath, which incidentally becomes horrid after you tie the not.

For all of you who don't know Marriage is nothing like dating. It takes a lot of maturity the ability to forgive and forget more compromise than you can imagine. I have friends that have been married on average three times at least. What makes a person want to plan more than one wedding? I know some ladies who wear a white flowing gown to each and every wedding, bride's maids, bride grooms, the whole kit and caboodle. Of course I get an invitation to each wedding, and of course I am a shoulder to cry on for each divorce. It befuddles the mind how a person could walk down the isle with three or four different people, it would seen like a rerun or like a marathon of "Ferris Bueller's day off" except with a twist like the movie "Nightmare on Elm Street".

Some people feel like without the title of husband or wife they are somehow diminished in the eyes of society. So they will continue to pursue the illusive idea of wedded bliss until they find someone that will stick, irregardless of the emotional consequences to themselves or anyone else involved with them or their lives. Marriages end in divorce because the significance of marriage has worn off, divorces are so easily obtained, most people go in with the attitude of if it doesn't work I can always get a divorce, if divorces were not given out like candy at a parade people would think twice about tying the knot.