Why Do Some Relationships Fail?

Being in a relationship can sometimes be harder than finding someone to be in a relationship with. Many couples in relationships love the person they are with, but, sometimes times get so hard that they may yearn to be single again. Being is a relationship is hard work, but, sometimes it is more than worth your time and effort to keep the relationship alive.

Divorce rates are still high. It is estimated that 50% of marriages end in divorce. If someone were to poll couples that are not married, the percentage of failed relationship would probably be 80 or 90%. Those are high numbers, but, we all know they are likely true.

Why do most relationships end? Well, for one, many couples jump into a relationship before they truly know their partner. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the initial romanticism that surrounds new relationships. Many couples fall in love with the idea of being in love. They also expect to be feeling the same fireworks months down the road. This is just so often not likely to happen. Physical chemistry is easy to acquire, you have to have the clout of actual love in order to help a relationship survive the ups and downs of life.

Another downfall that many couples make is not being completely honest in the beginning. It is so easy to pretend you enjoy the same things in order to make a relationship flow more smoothly in the beginning. But, if you don't like football, don't tell your boyfriend that you love it because later on in the relationship you will be sick of watching it all of the time and he will feel like you have been lying to him. What else could you have lied about? Small and insignificant lies, fibs, or exaggerations can turn into huge fights and unearth trust issues for the both of you. Be honest with each other up front. Sometimes it is better to not have all of the same interests. Sometimes you will find that opposite do in fact attract.

Studies have shown that it is better to be in a 2 or 3 year relationship with your partner before you actually get married. This may help couples stay together longer, but, it most certainly doesn't guarantee a lifelong marriage. We all know couples that got married just weeks after they met and are still together many years later-just as happy and in love as they were the first day they met. We also know couples that were high school sweethearts, dated through college, and then got married only to be divorced quickly after they wed.

Relationships and marriages don't always have to fail. If the two of you are willing and able to try to make things work out, they probably will. However, sometimes two people are just not meant for each other, no matter how hard they may try to make things work. If you have tried all you can to keep the relationship alive, then, you have done all you can. You can let go and not feel guilty or second guess yourself. Relationships are hard work, but, often times they are well worth the effort.