Why We Fear Change

"Change? Are you kidding me? Nothing needs to change!" A common thought among people who are content with their daily lives, or at least content enough to not affect any change. Well, is change really necessary? Why can't we all just be happy and get along peacefully and forget about change unless it is needed? This is a good question. Change is an important part of life. Change brings flexibility, balance and cohesion, whereas being stiff and rigid tends to bring darkness. Let us examine the two sides.

Comfort zones. Everyone lives in a comfort zone, a place in life where they feel secure and safe and reasonably sane. Especially in a society where people are piled on top of each other in cities, it is necessary to have a comfort zone to retreat or withdraw to. It may be your home, a certain friend or a group of friends, or it may be a getaway place you vacation at sometimes. It may even be your bathroom toilet. Wherever your comfort zone is, making changes to something so familiar can seem wrong...and very uncomfortable.

Is the grass really greener? So if your comfort zone is so nice, why change it? Because studies have shown that people who are successful in relationships and in finance and in emotional maturity are all people who allow change to affect their surroundings. Every atom, molecule, blade of grass or planet is vibrating in motion. Movement is a natural occurrence and it is the desire to control and stop this movement which brings poverty, loneliness and depression. In order to fully experience all of the good rivers in your life, you have to stop damming them up and trying to control their flow. Your life must have movement in order to succeed.

Why change is good for you. Change brings new opportunities to grow and perfect ourselves. We may love our comfort zones, but it is only after we leave those places of safety and venture out into the real and beautiful world outside that we gain perspective and balance. Change hurts, change is uncomfortable, change is scary, change is humbling, but change is the only thing that works. It is when we refuse to change that we stop functioning well in every aspect of our lives, from our marriages to our work ethic, and from the tidiness of our homes to our receiving correction.

Healthy steps to implement change. If you are tired of the effort it takes to keep all of your rivers dammed up, then implement a few of these changes in your life. Go find someone you consider your mortal enemy and do something incredibly nice for them, as if it is nothing. It has to be something big. Do not be "gracious" to them afterward. Simply act as if it was nothing. Next, rearrange the furniture in the most frequently used room in your house. Next, bake a really big cake for someone you love, out of the blue, for no reason at all and give it to them. Next, sit down and think of wild changes you can make to your life and how your era of stagnation is over.

Change is such a healthy dose of medicine for the weary and faint-hearted. It feels so good to know that the world is not always how we pictured it would be or how we wanted it to be. Change brings forth new life, clean ideas and healthy acceptances.