Why Are We so Different?

I believe there comes a time in every girl's life where she comes face to face with a reality that is most blatantly evident. A woman and a man are two different species...apples and oranges...and in some magical way, they must pair to make a wonderful dish-fruit salad.

Why is it that women feel the natural compelling feeling to need to know they're loved? Three little words can make a woman sleep better, eat better, and generally live better. There is a sense of complete and utter happiness that goes with being in love. And the same goes for being...out of love, or at least on the doorstep, knocking...waiting...waiting...

A man is completely different. Of course they want to be loved, but love is a different element for them. It is shown through respect. It's shown through affection-sex, which is an instant avenue into self reassurance for the male gender. Men consider not being in the doghouse to be sufficient expression of emotion enough to satisfy what desires they have to be loved. They don't toss and turn at night wondering how they're counterparts feel about them. They don't daydream at work about what their significant other's facial expressions truly mean. They take the relationship for face value. The interesting part comes when they in turn expect women to do the same.

The true fact of the matter is that nothing comes at face value for women. Everything has deeper meaning. Everything has hidden context. What he says and what she says...it all has two sides. And to every woman, there is no way around it. The key comes in balancing out the double sided coin. These hidden meanings can most definitely drive a man to dizziness, but they can also drive a woman to insanity.

I think it's safe to say that men and women alike mean no true harm with their vast differences. But still, they can frequently hurt each other's feelings. How many times has a man's laxed nature caused the woman to feel as though he's being insensitive. And how many times has the woman's inquisitive and sometimes prying nature caused the man to feel frustrated and not trustworthy.

I believe it's fair to say that the only way to surpass these great differences is through communication. Why is it so hard? Because it takes both sides of the aisle to set aside their instinctive ways and look at the world standing in someone else's shoes. But I think it's fairly obvious that once we can move ourselves to do that, our relationships can have the hope for success.