Why Do Wives Let Themselves Go?
Fairness
Is it fair to let yourself go after you're married? Wives, how would you feel if your husband became another person after you married him? We often criticize men for expressing their disapproval and disappointment in their wife's looks. I wonder what if you woke up one day and the man you married wasn't lying there anymore?
Creatures of the eye
Men's brains are wired to be stimulated by what they see. Many women know this very well when they're dating but it can get lost in the sauce after marriage.
Not just physical
Letting yourself go isn't just something that happens to your body. It's letting go of the special things that make you who you are. What things interested you when you were single? What things made you smile and brought out your creative genius? Why not get back to it? Sure, you have other obligations now but a balance of priorities is good for everyone in your family.
I find that I'm happiest when I'm happy with myself. I'm happy with myself when I balance doing things for my family with doing things I love that are just for me.
Double standard
Don't we expect our husbands to treat us like he did when we were dating? Then why don't we continue to treat ourselves like we did when we were dating? Did you used to give him eye candy and do special things because you knew he liked it? Well guess what, he still does.
Strapped for time?
Does your current lifestyle not allow any time for you to keep up the things that make you happy and whole inside and out? Then perhaps you should make a list of your current priorities and rearrange them. Would you love to have the time and energy to make love to your husband at night but you don't? Why not?
If work and running the kids around after school keeps you so tied up and stressed out that you neglect the things you would like to do, consider making a change.
Published by Katrina J.
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3 Comments
Post a Commenteven tonight he has gone to a ball game by himself.. I choose not to attend with him.. you ask why... because I have gone to events with him and he always try to find some woman to chat with instead of me.. he ignores me completely... it is a game with him... he is now angry with me because he thinks I do not let him make friends with other women.. my thought is why are you spending so much time seeking other women instead of working on your own relationship.... men who are rude to the wife do not deserve chances over and over again... he was chatting to this couple and he was always trying to be sexual with them.. then he kept asking the woman how much she made and if she worked full time... i think he asks because he wants to line up a replacement ... just a thought... most people who are just wanting to be friends don't ask about money or salaries.. they ask what their interests are. but, i have zoned out now... I do go for walks to try to keep my heart ok.. but have absolutely
i am one of those who let themself go... my husband use to give me sleeping pills so he could go in his office late at night and chat with college gals online... he also would ignore me at social events but chat up other women... he wanted me to go to a nude resort with him when i was thinner.. i went and when we were walking around on the road there he suddenly stopped and said he was too tired to continue... he headed back to the pool area... when i finished my walk I went to the pool area.. guess who was in the pool laughing it up with all the other women there.. you guessed right.. he was.. i watched him from the shadows and he was not tired one bit... he played water volleyball for over an hour without getting winded once... he never inquired where i was or anything.. I am sure I was not on his mind. so.. yes .. I do not care how he sees me now. i do not care to dress up for him or any of the things I use to do. he has been caught lying to me way too many times... you ask.. why d
You're right. It is important to try and look good for ourselves, as well as for our husbands. I love to get dressed up, even when we're not going out, taking time over my physical appearance and seeing my husband's reaction. I've been married for over 7 years, but I still try to make sure I look good.
Sophie