Why Women Fake Orgasms

Unfortunately, the truth is that most women have faked an orgasm in their lifetime, and many women continually do it. You may wonder, why so many women are faking orgasms, well, here are some of the reasons:

WOMEN ARE NOT RECEIVING THE RIGHT KIND OR ENOUGH STIMULATION TO GET THEM TO ORGASM.

In this situation, a woman knows how to reach orgasm, and does when she masturbates. However, when she's with her partner, she does not receive enough, or the right kind of stimulation that builds to orgasm.

WHAT CAN BE DONE?

A woman must communicate with her partner. She needs to express her desires and educate her partner about sexual techniques, such as, intercourse, fingering, oral sex, sex toys, female ejaculation, and sex positions. A simple change in position by raising the pelvis, or doggy style, might help. Another technique is the use of a vibrator, or keeping the partner's penis erect with a cock ring during penetration. The key is to relax, don't get fixated on the result, and enjoy experimenting!

INSECURE ABOUT HER BODY.

Many women are insecure about their bodies. Unfortunately this is a side effect of a confused culture, that is obsessed with physical beauty and unobtainable perfection.

WHAT CAN BE DONE?

Social expectations, these days, make it difficult to expect a woman to really believe that she is allowed to be imperfect. But, the truth is, human beings are not perfect! Women need to be encouraged to love themselves as they are.

Reassuring a woman that, to you, she is beautiful is important. However, a woman must take responsibility for her own insecurities, surround herself with supportive people, including her partner, and get help through therapy for improved body image, if needed.

EXPERIENCING PERFORMANCE ANXIETY.

It is almost impossible to have an orgasm if that is the only thing you focus on. The point of having an orgasm is not achievement, but to experience pleasure. A woman can defeat the whole experience by focusing on the end result, and not enjoying the ride. Having an orgasm is an involuntary response - sort of like sweating on demand - you can't! You have to do something that makes your body respond - obsessing about it won't get you there!

WHAT CAN BE DONE?

Social expectations these days make it difficult to expect a woman to believe she is allowed to be imperfect. Human beings are not perfect! And, women need to be encouraged to love themselves as they are.

Reassuring a woman that, to you, she is beautiful is important. However, a woman must take responsibility for her own insecurities, surround herself with supportive people, including her partner, and get help through therapy for improved body image, if needed.

Use relaxing mood enhancers, like scented candles, music, hot baths, and other things that take you to the place of surrender. The main issue it to make sure both you and your partner enjoy your time together, whether you have an orgasm or not. Enjoying yourself is not failure! Enjoy the moment, allow yourself to be creative, relax, and focus on pleasure - NOT performance.

HAS EMOTIONAL OR PHYSICAL TRAUMA CREATED PSYCHOLOGICAL BLOCKS?

One out of every six (6) American women have been victims of an attempted or completed rape. In some countries those statistics are even higher. With such a high rate of rape or assault, whether as a child or adult, women struggle with these issues. The stigma, shame and anger felt by female victims is not only their problem to deal with alone; it is our world's problem. It is the responsibility of all to ensure a safe and nurturing environment be provided to everyone, and that anyone who has been raped or assaulted needs to be treated with respect, compassion and love.

WHAT CAN BE DONE?

A woman must accept responsibility for her own issues, surround herself with supportive people (including her partner), and seek professional help.

ARE THER PHYSICAL COMPLICATIONS THAT PREVENT ORGASM?

All women should be able to have an orgasm. However, some women may find that birth control pills, anti-depressants, or an injury or illness inhibits her sex drive and response.

WHAT CAN BE DONE?

If there is suspicion that a physical issue might exist, such as, nerve damage or other complications from an injury or illness, the woman should speak with her OB-GYN doctor, to better understand the physical aspects.

UNEDUCATED ABOUT HER BODY AND DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO REACH ORGASM.

You probably would be amazed about the number of confused men and women regarding sexuality issues that range from physical responses to ethical approaches. Everyone must take responsibility and understand that our sexual health can only be empowered through education.