Why Women Shouldn't Fake Orgasms
Why we fake it
Want to know the main reason why we fake orgasms? Because we can. That's right. If men had the ability to fake orgasms, they would. Sometimes you're tired and just want it to be over with. It's much easier to fake like you're done than say, 'yeah, I'm really not feeling it. Can we stop?'
We also fake orgasms when we know that the effort being put in won't lead to one. A man may be giving it his best effort, and we thank him for it, but if he isn't doing it right, nothing will happen. Sometimes women fake it so they don't hurt the feelings of their partners. While this is admirable, it doesn't do any good for anyone.
Why we shouldn't
Most people, when coming up with traits they seek in a mate, will list honesty as number one. Even the ladies that fake orgasms say that honesty is key. Well, how honest is it to pretend to have that moment of extreme pleasure? Not very honest at all. Granted, it could be considered as one of those white lies that are better than the truth, but once you start the lie, it's hard to stop. Your boyfriend might think, 'wow! I'm good! If I keep doing that, she'll get off every time!' If you fake it once, you may have to keep faking it again and again.
The biggest reason not to fake orgasms is because it helps both parties if you don't. Guys should know if they aren't doing it right. Once they do know, they can learn to do it better. Really, wouldn't you like to have a real orgasm than a fake one? Women could experience that if they were honest and said what they like and don't like. Honesty in the bedroom is just as important as honesty everywhere else in the relationship. Both partners will be a whole lot happier if their both honest and both try to please the other.
Faking orgasms doesn't seem to be as much of an issue as it used to be. Women are feeling more empowered than they did in the past. This empowerment leads them to say, 'hey! That's not working for me! Do it this way!' Be honest and it will all work out.
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Post a CommentSee it's a loose loose for men, If we're not up for it, we can't get it up... We can't fake it, and sometimes we may turn on the sprinklers too soon... but a man has the right to know if he is not hitting the spot... and a tif for the ladies, if you're not feeling it, position yourself correctly, when lying on your back put a pillow on your back and press on your stomach, it's an orgasm everytime he hits. ;)
by the way I agree with Al. hehehe
That's why I love squirters, they can't fake it, they're like men! muahahaha
I'm definitely with all of you in regards to not faking orgasms. That's why I wrote this! I was just so sick of hearing all these women brag about faking. That's not really something I'D brag about.
Personally I would never fake an orgasm. I can orgasm everytime I have sex but because of a med I'm on it now takes forever. BUT I think the most enjoyable part of sex is teasing hubby until he is practically begging for release and giving him an orgasm. I guess it's more mind sex to me, I enjoy it immensely. Sure it's great to orgasm once a week or so but anymore than that and I'd break something lol. In fact I'm still couch bound from the orgasm I had 2 days ago. They are so intense that every muscle in my body hurts and I'm scatter brained for days. Good thing I work from home! And if for some reason I do want to orgasm and something just isn't going right I take matters errr into my own hands and join hubby on the journey :)
Why fake an orgasm? I agree with Heather.
I don't fake either. I'm with Heather.
First of all -- Heather James deserves an Oscar for her answer! Second -- hmmm...I'm not sure there is a "second"...all I know is FAKING IT is never a good thing. Especially when it involves something as fun as sex!
There has only been one man to fake an orgasm and his name is Cosmo Kramer !!!
I've never understood why women fake orgasms. If my girlfriend isn't up for sex, all she has to do is tell me. If it takes awhile, I'm not going to fake it because then I don't get what I was after. I wonder if faking orgasms is basically just a straight woman thing? I think that I could fake it if I wanted to, but why would I?
VERY interesting article and some VERY good points!