Why Do Women Stay with Domestic Violence Abusers? a Real Answer from a Case Study - You Might Be Surprised

Abusers look for women who are generous and have a kind heart,
With cars, houses, stable gainful employment as well as being quite smart.
What would they have to gain from a women with nothing for them to control?
And who could not support them after "angry outbursts" with the bosses take their toll?

After either the children are conceived or the engagement turns to marriage,
Is when the abuse usually begins, sometimes as soon as they dismount the honeymoon carriage.
An abuser is not usually stupid either, he is cunning and intelligent in a "predatorial" type of way,
He picks loving wise women to victimize because he knows they know when he threatens, it is not just play.

There must be a certain combination found in her for the abuser to feel safe enough to start to victimize,
Usually a woman who loves her children and seeks to protect them from experiences she would despise.
A perfect victim includes a determined woman who overcame abuse or experienced child molestation,
She must know what the abuse felt like it, for his plan to work, whether from first or second hand information.

That is the kind of woman a serial domestic violence offender wants,
Her strength, her assets, her caring, her dedication, and her love make her the perfect woman for his haunts.
Her takes her biggest fear, for example "If you leave me, I will prostitute out your daughter."
And he takes her captive for her life, for she knows he is serious despite being the child's father.

(Case study of an abused woman in Florida 2004 to 2007, this case received national attention, end result unknown)

What is the proper response to victims of domestic violence?
"When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few." Jesus in Matthew 9:36-37

~Have compassion and DO SOMETHING ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
Change laws, create shelters, and fund programs to help victims. Shelters and domestic violence support groups don't stop abuse but they do create a space to prevent some domestic violence deaths. According to statistics, domestic violence abusers usually commit child abuse and are far more likely to commit child sexual abuse-if given the opportunity like alone time through court ordered visitations-so stop supporting legislation that gives domestic violence offenders opportunities to abuse and influence their young children. Create new laws and legislation in your areas before your daughter or grandchild has to be beaten, threatened, injured, or killed to get your attention. Prevention is the best medicine.

~If you don't think you or your family will ever be affected by domestic violence or abusers, you are wrong: If you pay taxes or drive in traffic, then you have influence on the situation and could be victimized yourself. Domestic violence offenders also tend to experience road rage; however, when they "act out" they are not just cursing at you and flicking the bird, they are tail-gaiting you, bumping you, trying to drive you off the road, kicking your car side in, beating you up or shooting you dead at the next traffic stop. [Sadly EACH and EVERY one of these examples are from real cases with real people involved]. Don't turn a blind eye.

~Start Now to Help Prevent DV - Request a National Serial Domestic Violence Offender Registry for the US Be Created:
Send a brief note to the White House to request one-this would prevent domestic violence offenders from jumping county to county and state to state to create new victims and families. This would save tax payers money, prevention is less expensive. Take me to the White House Contact Form,click here.

Does someone who commits domestic violence and child abuse "love" their victims?
He who says: 'I love God, but hate my brother,' is a liar; for if one does not low one's brother whom one sees, how can one love God Whom one does not see?" 1 John 4:20

Abuse Is Not Love
~Society would see more clearly if they quit accepting and/or giving abusers the excuse "yes, you love her but..." Abuse is not love. Period. Losing self control is not love. Period. How can one abuse, terrorize, torture, or threaten the one they love? You cannot, if you loved them, you would not act that way. Love is an action-in the positive direction-these people, abusers and defenders of the "good intentions of abusers," are greatly misinformed on what love is and justice would be.

Abuse Is Not Loving Behavior - Abuse Is Selfish Behavior That Can Kill or Injure Other People
~Realize abusers do not love. Abusers tend to believe that they are usually "loving people who act out in anger or when provoked." Uneducated loved ones, some therapists, some clergy, and society tend to support this belief; hence, abusers aren't even motivated to change. Why not? They believe if the wife just submitted or did not express her opinions or displeasure or if the children just obeyed, they would not be abusers. Abusers blame the environment for their triggers, they do not accept full responsibility for the fact that they can and do choose their response as they snap from irritation to punching or biting. Then abusers move from victim to victim leaving a wake of victimized women and children behind. Abusers are people who have the control of a two year old when angry in a man's body-a very dangerous and deadly combination.