Widowers and Dating

I've been single for a long time. I'm getting older and have been dating more widowers. They have all insisted that they are ready to go on and begin again. But their actions seem to speak louder then their words. You be the judge.

One man, who had been widowed about three years after a long happy marriage, was planning a trip. He was going alone in his RV, expecting to cover 9000 miles in about 6 months. He would be driving back and forth across the country in order to cover those many miles. It sounded to me as if he was so lost without her he was going in circles.

I visited a man in his home several times who had been widowed about 5 years. I noticed he had a casserole in the freezer for quite some time and I suggested we heat it before it went bad. He said it was the last meal his wife had cooked for him before she died and he had frozen it until he could take it to a lab for them to figure out the recipe so he could make it but he just had not had a chance to do so yet.

A friend set me up on a blind date with a widower she knew who had been telling the folks he worked with that he was eager to meet someone after not having dated since his wife's passing. The doorbell rang and I grabbed my purse and put it under my arm. He told me I was carrying it wrong - purses should be carried under the other arm. I asked him why he thought that. He said his wife was a very chic dresser and she always carried her purse on the other side. Later that evening he commented that the perfect shoe size for a woman was a 6. I knew then I didn't have a chance - I'm a 9 - and I asked to be taken home. My purse I can move - my shoe size I'm stuck with.

A man contacted me from an online dating site. The picture he posted was with him and his wife. At first I thought he might be looking for a threesome but he wasn't. He just thought the women on the site would like to see what a nice wife he had and what a happy couple they were. To me - really bad judgment.

While most of the widowers I've dated say they were happily married occasionally someone says he wasn't. As we were driving to dinner my date went off course and eventually drove into a cemetery and took me to his wife's grave. Needless to say I was stunned. He asked me to get out and reluctantly I did. My own mortality began to flash in my mind as we approached her resting place. He looked down at the grave and said out loud - "I just wanted you to see that the broads I'm dating are a lot better looking then you ever were". I was flattered, but turned off just the same.

I'm still single and still looking. Anybody know a nice widower?