Wife and Mother: Who Am I

"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies." Proverbs 31:10

For a very long time I had a kind of identity crisis. There was a point in my life where I wanted to please other Christians in my life so badly that i allowed them to tell me who I was. This led me to a place of personal despair that took me years to overcome. Since that point in my life I have discovered some truths about myself.

I am not perfect, and no matter how hard I try, I will never be able to meet up entirely to other's expectations of me. That's O.K. It's a part of being human.

I was designed for a specific purpose. The attributes that make up my personality have not been given to me so that I can become someone else's puppet on a string.

I belong to Christ. This alone gives me the identification enough to stand my ground and believe in myself. If He is a part of me, and if I am truly trying to be obedient to His direction for my life, then it matters little what anyone else thinks.

I am distinctly unique. Sometimes God will (and has) called me out to a work that others around me have not. I don't need other's permission to do that work.

As a wife, I have discovered that the most important person's opinion of me is God's. The second is my husband's. I represent him, just as he represents me. However, his opinion of me can never be more important to me than God's. I am a person of value -- I cannot be shaken from that.

Last but not least, as a mother and wife, my first mission in this world is to see to the needs of my family. It is an honored position, and if I don't do my job, then someone else may very well come along and take my place. It is a hard fact, but true.

So, back to the question: Who am I? I am all the things I mentioned and more. I am a wife, mother, daughter, and friend. I have a voice in this world. So do you. Everything I said of myself also describes you. You are made in the image of the Almighty God -- a force to be reckoned with. No one can take your identity away from you unless you allow it.

Know who you are, but more importantly, know WHOSE you are.