Winning and Losing in Relationships

How to win an argument in a relationship? Don't. It's critical to notice the dumb way in which we start these arguments within ourselves. It's un-fair we say but always like a bullet that ricochets from wall to wall, we pass blame between each other. Why start a relationship then? It is true, as people, we seek a form of closure to an otherwise dull existence of low-pay, high-pay and peanut butter. Really, it's the excitement we seek. In this, winning an argument may be the same as losing it.

For example, we intrude on potential friendships that our significant others may have because of our jealousy. However, when we're blamed for the act, we act as though the argument should be insignificant because damn it all if being human wasn't to blame. Yes. True. But you're an idiot. How do you justify jealousy? For the sake of the argument, one could consider this as a form catalyst that sparks interest. This serves a purpose. You can be a mean person to acquire some form of pleasure in the act of acting jealousy; otherwise, you're an idiot. Why play invisible, why play dumb? If it's not to promote the sweetness of foreplay, then I seen no reason to be jealous. Nothing and no one ever belonged to you before, so why should you act as though something "belongs" to you because you think you know that thing or person more than others?

Jealousy is where blame starts. Then, people start arguing about how many other flaws they have, how many more mistakes they have made in "their" relationship. But you can not blame. Is it for you to judge? As I said before: do not. What is the purpose of blame? If it isn't to trigger some form of courtesy flirting, then why provoke people? Wars have started simply because we "blamed" them for something they obviously were not a part of (i.e. the Mexican-American War, French-Indian War, Manifest Destiny War --the Texas Rangers claim no fault but that's an American injustice which has yet to be acknowledged). This isn't all bad. Sometimes a good argument can strengthen a relationship but if you get into an argument with the simple intent of winning, then don't be fooled when the relationship ends, almost always to both parties' disapproval.

Here is the fourth argument: cheating. Just leave that person. Sometimes people get so attached, without need, to people who are evil that it is hard for them to let them go. Again, a form of jealousy inherited from a more bestial time? (and they say the internet is making us less human). Why so sad? Isn't the point of life to be happy, then why stay with people that constantly disappoint, constantly cheat, can not be trusted, is the sex really that good? Some people are generally sound with their decisions to "keep" things, with possessing, not letting go, having something that is exclusive. In this world, how could you not see that as selfishness, how could you not see that as stupid, even hurtful to oneself in the long run? If you know someone is poison, then why not just rid yourself of that poison? People are so different that the good in them is often a form of faulty perception. It doesn't mean that I promote disassociation from loved ones, one can not help but love family. I do, nevertheless, promote improvement of the person. How to win an argument? Make it a joke, argue for real, make your argument count if you're going to make one, and leave evil people behind. They will make their own fate. If they never belonged to you, why do you want to attach yourself, a good person, to them, just because they have a spark of know-how in bed? Wouldn't a faithful and less-educated dunce be preferable to a cheating little bitch? Just a thought.