Women Can Be Crazy Making

This morning I heard on the CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation) news a women's advocate blaming the criminal justice system for keeping a pregnant woman in custody because she did not want to testify against her abusive boyfriend.

When this victim was being abused she called the Police for help. The police came and charged her partner in accordance with the law.

The women's advocate now blames the justice system for trying to bring this man to face his crime. She said that because of this strong-arm approach of the justice system that force women to testify against their partners many abused women will no longer come forward.

A few years ago Canadian women's advocates blamed the justice system for leaving the responsibility in woman's hand as to whether to lay charges or not against abusive spouses. They had rightly concluded that women will change their mind because the men will sweep them into the "honeymoon" phase of the violence cycle and they will recant their stories. The police were urged to take matters into their own hands and beating women became a criminal offence. Women no longer had the power to save abusive men.

Well I am sorry we cannot have it every which way ladies. A man who beats his wife is a criminal and should be brought to justice whether the woman wants to or not. When he hits and maims her, he is not only damaging his partner, he is putting pressure on the healthcare and the justice system. If women want to be beaten then she should not call the police. The police service must not be used in this way. If there is another layer of service needed, then social workers should maybe fill this gap. They should be the ones going to the house of the abused woman instead of the police and free up the police to deal with more serious crimes.

How long is it going to take for men to understand that beating a woman is a crime? If he cannot stand a woman that it is his right to leave her.

I know things are not always this cut and dried but I do not think that women should use the police as a buffer and let criminals get away. Women are not as fragile as some of our social workers think. They are independent and strong and they are adults and must make adult decisions in the best interest of their own well being.

As women, we have to make up our minds. Is abuse a crime or a crime of the heart that deserves to be treated with kid gloves?

The pregnant woman in the news said that she was going back to her boyfriend because she loved him and she knew he is going to be a good father. I believe this woman is living in a dream. She will not only endanger her own life but now the life of her unborn child.

It is her right not to call the police and endure future beatings. Perhaps she might find a way to stop it using her own resources but do not blame the criminal justice system. They are doing their job in protecting women.