Women: Five Ways to Stop "Baby Daddy" Trouble

Stephanie Modkins
Got "baby daddy" trouble? The father of your child rarely pays child support; shows up on a whim to see your child; and, still tries to sleep with you. Stop suffering. Take control of the situation and give your little one an example of how a real woman handles her business. Do:

1. Garnish his wages.
Garnishment of wages is the easiest way to stop baby daddy trouble with those men who flake on child support payments. The employer of your child's father automatically sends you what the judge decreed in payments and; as a result, you no longer have to worry about making ends meet. Like clock work, you get paid on time, every month.

2. Set visitation dates.
Tell your baby daddy he just can't show up whenever he wants to at your home and if he doesn't listen, don't open the door. In addition, go to court. Be strong. Get visitation dates in writing, so you don't have to negotiate times with someone who might not always act reasonable. With the law on your side, you'll show him how serious you are and he'll be more afraid to break any agreements.

3. Say no to having sex.
Stop this type of baby daddy trouble by not flirting with him or trying to make him jealous with other men. This kind of behavior sends mixed messages. Then, go the extra mile and stay out of his business. Unless one of his girlfriends or new wife is going to be around your child, you don't need to know anything about her. Always keep in mind the reasons why your relationship ended in the first place, so you don't make a mistake.

4. Live in the same city.
Your child needs access to his father and vice versa. Distance won't make the heart grow founder in this case. If anything, the inability of either one of them to see each other will create a rift. So buck up. Hold off on any of your dreams to live in New York or L.A. until your child grows up.

5. Parent together as one.
Regardless of how you were romantically, you and the father of your child should parent together. Consult him on major decisions regarding discipline, school and extra-curricular activities. Men who have a say in their child's rearing are more likely to be an involved parent. In the end, you stop baby daddy trouble regarding an uninvolved parent and also gain a male's perspective, something you especially need in raising a boy.

Use these five suggestions and you'll get along better with your baby daddy. You might even become friends because he becomes a strong ally and parental figure for your child.

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Published by Stephanie Modkins

Stephanie M. is a freelance writer who lives in the northwest. Her main goal is to write in a way that entertains, educates or uplifts readers.  View profile

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  • Stephanie Jeannot11/16/2010

    Informative article!

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