Women Who Hate Other Women

Again, I have been stimulated to write an article by some article I have read. This could go on forever.

Let me start out by stating that which is obvious to most, that not all women hate other women. What this article is about though, are women I have encountered over the many years who do hate, have disdain for, or actually loathe other women. So, let's take a look at some of the scenarios I have encountered that show just how much women can hate other women.

Domestic Violence-

This is a biggy. I can't count how many women that have degraded, chastised, humiliated, and most certainly didn't support a woman experiencing domestic violence. These are the women that typically say, I would never let a man do that to me, she must be stupid to stay with him, she must be a weak person, she's crazy, and on and on. So, how in the heck does this help a fellow woman? The point is it doesn't! It just further minimizes her as a human being, and plummets her self worth even lower than it already is. Why do these women do this? Because deep inside they are scared to death it could happen to them. It's easier for them to put down the woman who is being abused than deal with their own fears. After all, a person who is secure within themselves, has plenty of room for compassion and a willingness to help, rather than to strike out at a victim. These women are just as bad as the abusers. Actually, in their own way they are being abusive too. It's like kicking a dog when it's down.

Fat And Thin Women-

If I had to choose which one hates the other more it would be impossible. The fat woman who hates the so called "skinny bitch", because she feels like she doesn't measure up, a man may never want her, and the world is not a nice place to live for anyone over the size of 14. The thin woman hates the fat woman because she doesn't want to deal with her own fears of becoming fat. She truly believes that people only love her because of how she looks, and if she gains weight she will go unloved. In today's society that may not be far from the truth. So in the end, there's a battle of the bulge so to speak between the "Fatties" and the "Skinnies".

Working Moms and Stay at Home Moms-

This is one discussion I try to stay away from. It could be hazardous to one's health. The working mom who hates the stay at home mom because inside she's afraid she's not being a good mom. She actually calls stay at home moms stupid, dull, unintelligent, and lazy. It's amazing what a little guilt about not being at home with their kids, and a lot of fear that their short changing their kids, can do. The stay at home mom can be just as bad. I don't know how many times I have heard out of their mouth that working moms don't care about the welfare of their kids, their selfish, greedy, and just plain bad moms. Yes, a deep fear that maybe they couldn't handle working and doing a good job at raising their kids at the same time, makes for some interesting put downs of the working mom.

Feminists and Traditionalists-

Okay so this is the next best thing to a wrestling match. Talk about hate! Feminists think traditionalists are weak willed, passive, whiny, dependent individuals that can't live without a man in their life. The reason they feel this way? They have a fear of being controlled, and a fear of not being in control. They see a traditionalist woman as nothing more than a cook, housekeeper, and paid whore. On the other the traditionalist hates the feminist because her views threaten the traditional values she has always lived with. There is also a fear of not being able to take care of oneself, and the ability to live alone. It's a shame we can't have the best of both worlds. Unfortunately, these two groups of women have been at each other's throats since the conception of women's lib.

There you have it. These are more common scenarios of women hating women that I have come across over the years. It all still goes on until this day. Thank goodness there are still women out there that still support one another no matter what. They have compassion for the other's situation, and never judge. They have obviously walked a mile in their shoes.

In my world it all comes down to WWJD? What would have Jesus done when coming across another human being who was different, or experiencing a different situation? I believe he would have had compassion, love, and reached out his hand to help. Perhaps the stay at home mom could watch the workingwoman's children? Perhaps the woman who sees an abused woman could offer them some help? Perhaps the thin woman could help the fat woman to lose some weight? Perhaps the feminist could remember that being equal includes women who have different kinds of values and lives?

*God Bless all my fellow women from every walk of life!