Women: If You Want Respect from Men then Act Like You Deserve It
It's time girls started taking half of the responsibility for some men being "jerks". That's right. I said it. I can hear the guys cheering and the gals hissing and preparing to claw my eyes out. Before you start sending me nasty hate mail, take the time to read on.
Now, I've been called a feminist by many. I am all about empowering women and seeing them do great things, but with great power comes great responsibility. Maybe the comic book fan in me is showing , but I'm serious. There's more to a girl demanding respect for herself than just screaming at guys when they act like....well, guys.
I can't express how tired I am of hearing girls whine about how they were wronged by a guy when in fact they slept with him almost immediately, after he made it clear he didn't want a relationship, or even waited until the guy was drunk to make their move. It's different if the guy has been leading you on for a while, dating you, or acting interested and only after sex disappears or tells you he doesn't want to be involved. In those cases, he deserves every name you can throw at him.
Some girls just don't get it. No matter what the "agreement" is, or how many times a guy has told them they don't want a relationship, some girls seem to have this notion that their stuff is golden and the minute they give it up, the guy will automatically be starstruck into wanting or loving them, and that he will turn into prince charming.
These girls seem to think that if they have sex, it automatically means the guy has to repay them by committing. When they don't get their way, they want to throw a fit and blame the guy. I guess that's easier than admitting you did something stupid.
See, guys are fascinated with this thing-it's called sex. If you drop your pants and lay it out before a guy, especially when he's drunk, he's going to take you up on the offer. Does this mean he's an asshole? No. It means he's a guy.
You can't go calling him names, smearing his reputation, and hating him afterwards. Well, you could, but it's almost like setting out a nice Big Mac in front of a homeless person that's craving a nice meal, offering it to them, and then calling them a thief after they eat it because they didn't give you a couple bucks for it-because guys are always craving sex, whether it's been 10 years or ten minutes since they last had it.
Here's a relationship tip from your old Auntie Jessie. Guys, like girls, want something of value. They assume if you're giving it freely now, you probably have before.
Thomas Jefferson once said, "Go on deserving applause, and you will be sure to meet with it."
Have some respect for yourself-and act like it- and guys will, too.
Now, I've been called a feminist by many. I am all about empowering women and seeing them do great things, but with great power comes great responsibility. Maybe the comic book fan in me is showing , but I'm serious. There's more to a girl demanding respect for herself than just screaming at guys when they act like....well, guys.
I can't express how tired I am of hearing girls whine about how they were wronged by a guy when in fact they slept with him almost immediately, after he made it clear he didn't want a relationship, or even waited until the guy was drunk to make their move. It's different if the guy has been leading you on for a while, dating you, or acting interested and only after sex disappears or tells you he doesn't want to be involved. In those cases, he deserves every name you can throw at him.
Some girls just don't get it. No matter what the "agreement" is, or how many times a guy has told them they don't want a relationship, some girls seem to have this notion that their stuff is golden and the minute they give it up, the guy will automatically be starstruck into wanting or loving them, and that he will turn into prince charming.
These girls seem to think that if they have sex, it automatically means the guy has to repay them by committing. When they don't get their way, they want to throw a fit and blame the guy. I guess that's easier than admitting you did something stupid.
See, guys are fascinated with this thing-it's called sex. If you drop your pants and lay it out before a guy, especially when he's drunk, he's going to take you up on the offer. Does this mean he's an asshole? No. It means he's a guy.
You can't go calling him names, smearing his reputation, and hating him afterwards. Well, you could, but it's almost like setting out a nice Big Mac in front of a homeless person that's craving a nice meal, offering it to them, and then calling them a thief after they eat it because they didn't give you a couple bucks for it-because guys are always craving sex, whether it's been 10 years or ten minutes since they last had it.
Here's a relationship tip from your old Auntie Jessie. Guys, like girls, want something of value. They assume if you're giving it freely now, you probably have before.
Thomas Jefferson once said, "Go on deserving applause, and you will be sure to meet with it."
Have some respect for yourself-and act like it- and guys will, too.
Published by Jessica Lynn
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Post a CommentContd... a lot of young women have this just give me give me give just cause I'm a women so give me, give me, give me, take take take, without any appreciation and on top of that these women with this attitude are like with men that take all this time to set up a nice date go out and then these type of women expect this la la magical fantasy "perfect" date or else they basically want to cry and almost roll and throw a fit on the floor just like a two year old, stomp her feet. We men worked our a**es off setting up a nice date and all you can do is throw a fit, not appreciate what the he** us men did to set up a nice date and then on top of that these type of women want this "perfect" god of a man and every first date is a failure cause she has this cobbled up effed up "fantasy" god "guy" that doesn't exist. No wonder so many men throw up their hands and are like he**why put much of any effort into a date if all she's going to do is throw a fit cause she expects expects..
"WOMEN NEED TO RE-READ THIS ARTICAL, IN FULL. ALOT OF GIRLS ARE TWISTING THIS AROUND TO FIT THERE VIEWS...... THIS ARTICAL IS NOT ABOUT , RESPECTING YOUR SELF, OR HOLDING BACK SEX AS A WEAPON, IN FACT, THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE ARTICAL IS TELLING YOU NOT TO DO. THIS ARTICAL IS ABOUT WOMEN RESPECTING MEN,, AND EARNING RESPECT , INSTEAD OF EXPECTING IT JUST BECUASE THEY ARE FEMALE... THIS ISN'T ABOUT WOMEN NEEDING MORE RESPECT,, ITS ABOUT WOMEN NEEDED TO SHOW SOME RESPECT TO MEN,, AND NOT EXPECTING SPEACIAL TREATMENT BECUASE THEY ARE WOMEN, SEXIST WOMEN NEED TO GROW UP,,"
So completely agree with this...Women have gotten so much worse within the last say even 5 to 8 years with this not having much respect for men ESPECIALLY YOUNG WOMEN IN THEIR EARLY 20's to late 20's to early 30's. I was just thinking about this issue how so many women need to learn RESPECT, not for themselves but FOR MEN. There are a lot of women these days that have this pathetic shi**y attitude of me me me me. Contd.
Respect goes for both. bot partners must learn to respect each other. and its true men earn respect for a woman who has standards, i mean morally. a man will treat the lady the way she deserves to be treated coz she has shown him that she cant be played for a fool. then ultimatley the wowm will respect him too coz both have un understanding and the issue of trust comes in. women have the keys as men will ows be men and would always crave for a cookie but if you as a lady aint ready then make sure u do it when u can.
Men respect women who are not of ill repute and virtue. No man will ever respect a woman who has been picked over and passed among many men, no matter how many degrees she may have, or how cultivated her image may be. There will be ups, downs, back and forth in relationships, but when people love each other, they repair whatever damage has occurred, just like best friends who argue and reconcile. Your wife is not only your wife, she is your family. Some women reject this idea, choosing to label it oppressive, unable to realize that natural relations between men and women are not always perfect. Most of these types of women have spread themselves among many men, and now that they can't find a man, especially the man of their preference, that wants to make them a wife, they employ sophisticated rhetoric in an attempt to poison relations among other established and potential couples. They are miserable , and should be ignored.
It's impossible to address every different type of man or woman or relationship. One thing I know is ...a jerk is a jerk. If he isn't nice to you, means he isn't that into you. If he lies, cheats, is mean...that is who they are ...whether it's just to you or everyone. Who needs him? or her? I hate that people constantly want to say we are so different. When it comes down to the basics on how someone should be treated...we are the same. Man or woman, neither wants to be used, lied to or cheated on. If they are doing this to you, than they don't care about you or they are just dysfunctional. Everyone should watch that movie, "He's just not that into you" at least 3 times!
I've withheld sex from a guy for almost four years. Mostly because he is a narcissist and you never offer them emotional or physical intimacy. But he's still around and good for my ego. Ladies, don't give it up. If you do, enjoy it completely, then get immediately into the shower afterwards and then tell him you're leaving to get your nails done. Can he make dinner for you by the time you return? Or lose his phone number. He'll be back. If not, there's a more fulfilling partner somewhere else.
Maybe my abstraction is off, or it might seem like you're breeding the idea that "The homeless man should pay retail price for that big-mac"
If thats the case, the ideal is slanted; That hobo clearly could pay retail price for it.
idk,, {Discount them atleast?}
the sooner we move from BOYS WANT THIS GIRLS WANT THIS to understanding that humans have the same needs and desires and culture skews us; the sooner the gender war will end and we will have men who can express them selves, women who wont call them overly sensitive and then go on to demand emotional support for their own issues from the next guy.
im the guy that doesn't enjoy my male friends talking about women being in the kitchen... i hate it when i hear women talk about men only wanting one thing. sexism goes both ways feminism is masking awareness of that.
Those women who claim to be feminists and at the same time demand special treatment because of their sex...there is just something so fundamentally wrong about it. They give all feminists a bad name. They are trying to place themselves above men (as opposed to equal to them) by expecting this automatic respect, and at the same time below them (without even realizing it because it is socially acceptable) because they expect men to treat them like dependant children who need to have doors opened for them and have their dinners paid for, amongst many other things. These women are not real feminists, if they claim to be. Keep that in mind.
IF MEN ACTING LIKE WOMEN... WOMEN WOULD BE DISCUSTED.. AND TELL US TO GROW UP....(you want a women to pay for your dinner?.. grow up.."be a man")
WOMEN NEED TO GROW UP... THEY HAVE NOT EVOLVED A MATURE MENATILTY.... AND THEY NEVER WILL.. AS LONG AS MEN ALLOW THEM TO BEG FOR SPECIAL TREATMENT.... STOP ALLOWING WOMEN TO ACT LIKE BABYS... WE NEED TO FORCE THEM TO HOLD THERE OWN IN THE WORLD... FOR ONCE..
GROW UP WOMEN.. ITS 2011... TIME TO STOP ACTING LIKE BABYS.. AND EXPECTING MEN TO DO EVERY THING FOR YOU...
WOMEN NEED TO STOP BEGGING FOR SPECIAL TREATMENT,,, AND START SHOWING SOME RESPECT TO MEN.