Women Need to Know: Is He "The One?" (Part II)

If you are asking yourself the question whether or not the man whom you have been dating for a short while is truly the one, then the odds are pretty good that you have an increasing feeling of butterflies whenever you think of him, hear his name spoken, or watch him walk through the door. On the other hand, sometimes there are little nagging feelings that have you contemplating if he is truly the one fate has designated to be your soul mate. Answering this question sooner rather than later will allow you to either take your relationship to the next level, or get on with your life.

Here are some surefire ways to realize that he is "the one" you need to cut loose, avoid, and stop dating:
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Your mate belittles your aspirations, dreams, and goals. Sure, you have not yet sold that big New York Times bestseller, but one day you will write and sell it! If your man expects you to put all of your goals, hopes and dreams on the backburner for his own dreams, goals, and hopes, then the odds are good that you have found the one to avoid. Getting more serious with him would simply mean having to loose more and more of yourself, and this is not the goal of any dating relationship.
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If your family and friends feel uncomfortable around him, warn you repeatedly, or if he does not like your family and friends and persuades you time and again to avoid them. The odds are pretty good that others are able to see clearly what you are too infatuated to realize, and it may be time to put some distance between you and him.
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On a more serious note, if there is even just a tiny hint of abuse - whether it is physical or verbal - you need to stop dating him right away. Apologies, flowers, and gifts in the aftermath of an abusive moment are cheap, and if you decide to stay with such a person, you will be setting yourself up for more of the same!
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Whenever you contemplate spending the rest of your life with the man you are dating, you are secretly wishing that he would change this, that and the other thing. If you are not able to accept him for what he is, then he is not the one for you.
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Last but not least, if your man looses jobs, is fired, asked to leave, or cannot remain gainfully employed for any length of time, it is time for you to move on. He is not ready for a serious commitment.