Women Should Not Lose Who They Are After a Bad Breakup

Women and men treat a relationship differently for different reasons. Women are more attached emotionally and men are not. After reading so many different relationship articles and even Steve Harvey's book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man and I came up with this very important factor; being in a long term relationship and the woman and man break up, the woman loses herself and sometimes goes into turns into someone no real man wants to date and be with.

Since women are emotional beings they tend to feel they invested so much love and time into a relationship. A woman gets herself so wrapped up in her partner that she loses herself and tends to try be on her partners "coat tails" and/or "heels" never wanting to go out with her own friends and live her own life. This is the biggest mistake most women make and after the break up the woman is devastated and starts thinking how can either get the guy back by doing things she did not do to attract him in the first place or how can she pick up the pieces of her broken heart and move on to the next guy.

Some women are strong enough to just move on to the next man but most are so caught up in their emotions that they turn into a woman they were not when they first met the guy. Unconsciously this sends out the wrong message to a potential man and sends him running away. This is when all the trouble starts, she starts to attract the BAD GUYS and wonders why she can never find a good one. This is a gateway to all sorts of trouble that a woman will not be able to handle unless she goes about the breakup in the right way.

There are ways to not lose yourself after you have lost him. First and foremost be independent! Go into any relationship having your own EVERYTHING! That is the most important rule, because it is a looker for a man to be with a woman that has her own things and does not really need him to babysit her like he is her father or caregiver. A man does not want a woman so wrapped up in him that he can not breathe, that is why most men will start backing away from a woman and be distant and she feels like she's losing him so she holds on to him tighter which only makes him want to leave more. Last but not least, have enough self-confidence and self-esteem in yourself. A man loves to see his girl not worry about his female friends because she knows in her mind she is enough for him. This attitude will make your man respect you more and he would not want to do anything to mess up what he has. Being a woman with low self-esteem and confidence will bring about unnecessary problems, like the guy will lose respect for you and other women will sense you do not have confidence and try to sabotage your relationship on purpose just because they know you are not confident in your role as being his woman.

Confidence and esteem come from the inside out. If you do not believe you are beautiful and respect yourself, why would dare think your man will. When you enter into a relationship, treat him how you would want him to treat you and if problems arise, be direct and talk to him about it and hopefully you guys can come to a conclusion and the problem won't come up again.

These two attributes will have you self and secure with your relationship but most importantly YOU, so even if the relationship goes south you won't go with it!