Women's Defense - Are You Ready?

Many women of today feel they can do anything. Some can, but most are hard working with confidence within their own comfort zone. As long as they are surrounded by friends, family, job and familiar territory they have very little fear of being a victim of crime. They take the same road to work each day, talk to the same friends and return to their secure home at night.

But what happens when a crime takes place in their own neighborhood? They feel the peace of security shattered and a need to learn more about self protection. Some turn to others for protection while many decide it's time to learn self defense. They locate the nearest class in their city and begin the physical lessons in hopes of not becoming a victim.

However there is more than just the physical requirement to taking care of oneself in a dangerous situation and you have to prepare in other areas as well. Women do not normally grow up as an aggressor mentally, emotionally or physically. It's just the make up of life and genetics that must be learned and most classes forget to teach. Good classes will take this into consideration for female students, but if they don't then you must teach yourself!

Mental defense. Can you think about what you would do in a truly dangerous situation to stop an attack? Would you hit back? Would you hold back to keep from hurting someone too much? This is the part of mental defense most women have to work on. When you make a decision to fight back then do it completely and aggressively. You will want to prepare yourself to do as much damage as possible and not be fooled by pleas of help or cries of redemption. If you are attacked the attacker will do whatever it takes to hurt, control and maybe even kill you. So why are you worried about causing damage?

Your first reaction is disbelief. Next you begin to fight back, but as soon as an attacker backs away a little you will want to stop fighting thinking they are giving up. This is a bad decision. Most attackers know if they pull back a little the woman is more likely to take pity! This mistake can cost you your life. You have let your guard down by thinking your attacker has decided to stop. You have now given them a new opening and a sign of your weakness. You felt sorry for them or assumed with such little effort you won! Fight back and fight hard mentally. Tell yourself what you see as surrender is a lie. Mental defense is making the decision to stop the attack until it can't happen any more.

Emotional defense. For women this is one of the hardest things to control and to gain control over. At the first sight of blood you want to stop and correct the flow. If tears are involved you want to help make them go away. If you are told a sad story of life you will want to believe it. Don't! Blood is a sign of danger to come and you must gain complete control of the situation before worrying about what to do about bleeding. Do not stop fighting at the first sign of blood no matter if it is yours or the attackers. Keep fighting until your are in a safe enough situation to care for it properly without further danger.

If the attacker starts to cry ignore it. Same with the sad story. If you can't ignore them then use them to your advantage for control, but whatever you do don't believe what you hear. Tears and sad stories have led many people in to an unwanted life of crime because of love. Sometimes death was the result because a criminal learns which lies will work best for which situation. It's ok for you to use tears and lies to stop the attack or even give you a moments opening to fight back, but don't let the attacker gain your trust. Just the very fact that an attack has taken place should tell you not to trust the person.

Physical defense. This is not a how to defend yourself with techniques. This is about learning to use what you have physically in an aggressive manor. When you commit yourself to defend physically you must use all your strength to stop the attack. Do NOT try to stop it "without really hurting them". You want to hurt them! You must commit to physically stopping an attack without thought of the damage you are inflicting. Learn to use your whole body and what is best for you in different situations.

Learn to use your eyes to watch your attacker and what is happening around you. Learn to listen with your ears for footsteps and danger signals. Learn to use your voice, your stance, your walk to show confidence. Learn to use everything around you as a weapon or an alarm in a dangerous situation.

If you apply the mental, emotional and physical principles in this article you will be well on your way to being able to carry out a defense if you should need to do so. If you don't combine these elements with techniques you are going to find defending yourself and your family more difficult. You won't be sure of your abilities if you have to use them.

An attacker is not going to pick a victim they think they will lose to. They choose victims for power, control and insane reason's no one else has. When you have only you for protection your mental and emotional state is what prepares you to come out of the attack alive. Each of us is different and with a little training and preparation anyone can have a chance not only to survive, but to thrive on the fact you do not look like the right person to be a victim.